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SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I'm being charged for an apartment I haven't even moved into yet.
POST: I originally was expecting to move into my new apartment in August, but due to some instability at the time, I was forced to stay with a friend and wait until this month to move in. Today, I received a message from them asking if I was still moving in, and responded that I was since I was receiving my bi-weekly paycheck that would give me enough to pay this month's rent of about $350 (along with a few necessities).
They then proceeded to tell me that if I did move in, I would also have to pay the whole first month's rent on top of that, even though I wasn't even living there. I would understand a holding fee, but paying $350 just to hold a spot is utterly ridiculous. I've done the math, and by the time I do get the full $700 or so, it would be time for next month's rent, which would add another $350 on top of that. That means I would essentially have to earn over $1000 in less than a month, literally impossible for someone on my salary.
And here's the icing on the cake; if I decide NOT to move in, they still want to charge me full rent for August AND September. Regardless of what I do, I'll still be down at least $700.
I could really use some help/advice, guys. I'm at a loss at this point. I do NOT want to take out any loans.
TL;DR: | Haven't moved into apartment yet, getting charged full price for past two months. If I cancel, still getting charged $700. If I don't cancel, I'll have to come up with $1,000 by next month. | Am I being charged for an apartment I've not even moved into yet?
EDIT: Thanks for the responses guys. I had no idea this would get so much attention. I really appreciate it. I'll have to see if I can get in contact with them again next week. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I'm being charged for an apartment I haven't even moved into yet.
POST: I originally was expecting to move into my new apartment in August, but due to some instability at the time, I was forced to stay with a friend and wait until this month to move in. Today, I received a message from them asking if I was still moving in, and responded that I was since I was receiving my bi-weekly paycheck that would give me enough to pay this month's rent of about $350 (along with a few necessities).
They then proceeded to tell me that if I did move in, I would also have to pay the whole first month's rent on top of that, even though I wasn't even living there. I would understand a holding fee, but paying $350 just to hold a spot is utterly ridiculous. I've done the math, and by the time I do get the full $700 or so, it would be time for next month's rent, which would add another $350 on top of that. That means I would essentially have to earn over $1000 in less than a month, literally impossible for someone on my salary.
And here's the icing on the cake; if I decide NOT to move in, they still want to charge me full rent for August AND September. Regardless of what I do, I'll still be down at least $700.
I could really use some help/advice, guys. I'm at a loss at this point. I do NOT want to take out any loans.
TL;DR: | I'm being charged $350 for a place I haven't even moved into yet. I'm looking for any advice or advice of any kind, because I want to get out of this. | Can't afford to move in, and they're charging me for it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I'm being charged for an apartment I haven't even moved into yet.
POST: I originally was expecting to move into my new apartment in August, but due to some instability at the time, I was forced to stay with a friend and wait until this month to move in. Today, I received a message from them asking if I was still moving in, and responded that I was since I was receiving my bi-weekly paycheck that would give me enough to pay this month's rent of about $350 (along with a few necessities).
They then proceeded to tell me that if I did move in, I would also have to pay the whole first month's rent on top of that, even though I wasn't even living there. I would understand a holding fee, but paying $350 just to hold a spot is utterly ridiculous. I've done the math, and by the time I do get the full $700 or so, it would be time for next month's rent, which would add another $350 on top of that. That means I would essentially have to earn over $1000 in less than a month, literally impossible for someone on my salary.
And here's the icing on the cake; if I decide NOT to move in, they still want to charge me full rent for August AND September. Regardless of what I do, I'll still be down at least $700.
I could really use some help/advice, guys. I'm at a loss at this point. I do NOT want to take out any loans.
TL;DR: | Haven't moved into apartment yet, getting charged full price for past two months. If I cancel, still getting charged $700. If I don't cancel, I'll have to come up with $1,000 by next month. | I'm being charged $350 for a place I haven't even moved into yet. I'm looking for any advice or advice of any kind, because I want to get out of this. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I'm being charged for an apartment I haven't even moved into yet.
POST: I originally was expecting to move into my new apartment in August, but due to some instability at the time, I was forced to stay with a friend and wait until this month to move in. Today, I received a message from them asking if I was still moving in, and responded that I was since I was receiving my bi-weekly paycheck that would give me enough to pay this month's rent of about $350 (along with a few necessities).
They then proceeded to tell me that if I did move in, I would also have to pay the whole first month's rent on top of that, even though I wasn't even living there. I would understand a holding fee, but paying $350 just to hold a spot is utterly ridiculous. I've done the math, and by the time I do get the full $700 or so, it would be time for next month's rent, which would add another $350 on top of that. That means I would essentially have to earn over $1000 in less than a month, literally impossible for someone on my salary.
And here's the icing on the cake; if I decide NOT to move in, they still want to charge me full rent for August AND September. Regardless of what I do, I'll still be down at least $700.
I could really use some help/advice, guys. I'm at a loss at this point. I do NOT want to take out any loans.
TL;DR: | Haven't moved into apartment yet, getting charged full price for past two months. If I cancel, still getting charged $700. If I don't cancel, I'll have to come up with $1,000 by next month. | Am I being charged for an apartment I've not even moved into yet?
EDIT: Thanks for the responses guys. I had no idea this would get so much attention. I really appreciate it. I'll have to see if I can get in contact with them again next week. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I'm being charged for an apartment I haven't even moved into yet.
POST: I originally was expecting to move into my new apartment in August, but due to some instability at the time, I was forced to stay with a friend and wait until this month to move in. Today, I received a message from them asking if I was still moving in, and responded that I was since I was receiving my bi-weekly paycheck that would give me enough to pay this month's rent of about $350 (along with a few necessities).
They then proceeded to tell me that if I did move in, I would also have to pay the whole first month's rent on top of that, even though I wasn't even living there. I would understand a holding fee, but paying $350 just to hold a spot is utterly ridiculous. I've done the math, and by the time I do get the full $700 or so, it would be time for next month's rent, which would add another $350 on top of that. That means I would essentially have to earn over $1000 in less than a month, literally impossible for someone on my salary.
And here's the icing on the cake; if I decide NOT to move in, they still want to charge me full rent for August AND September. Regardless of what I do, I'll still be down at least $700.
I could really use some help/advice, guys. I'm at a loss at this point. I do NOT want to take out any loans.
TL;DR: | I'm being charged $350 for a place I haven't even moved into yet. I'm looking for any advice or advice of any kind, because I want to get out of this. | Can't afford to move in, and they're charging me for it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I'm being charged for an apartment I haven't even moved into yet.
POST: I originally was expecting to move into my new apartment in August, but due to some instability at the time, I was forced to stay with a friend and wait until this month to move in. Today, I received a message from them asking if I was still moving in, and responded that I was since I was receiving my bi-weekly paycheck that would give me enough to pay this month's rent of about $350 (along with a few necessities).
They then proceeded to tell me that if I did move in, I would also have to pay the whole first month's rent on top of that, even though I wasn't even living there. I would understand a holding fee, but paying $350 just to hold a spot is utterly ridiculous. I've done the math, and by the time I do get the full $700 or so, it would be time for next month's rent, which would add another $350 on top of that. That means I would essentially have to earn over $1000 in less than a month, literally impossible for someone on my salary.
And here's the icing on the cake; if I decide NOT to move in, they still want to charge me full rent for August AND September. Regardless of what I do, I'll still be down at least $700.
I could really use some help/advice, guys. I'm at a loss at this point. I do NOT want to take out any loans.
TL;DR: | I'm being charged $350 for a place I haven't even moved into yet. I'm looking for any advice or advice of any kind, because I want to get out of this. | Haven't moved into apartment yet, getting charged full price for past two months. If I cancel, still getting charged $700. If I don't cancel, I'll have to come up with $1,000 by next month. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I'm being charged for an apartment I haven't even moved into yet.
POST: I originally was expecting to move into my new apartment in August, but due to some instability at the time, I was forced to stay with a friend and wait until this month to move in. Today, I received a message from them asking if I was still moving in, and responded that I was since I was receiving my bi-weekly paycheck that would give me enough to pay this month's rent of about $350 (along with a few necessities).
They then proceeded to tell me that if I did move in, I would also have to pay the whole first month's rent on top of that, even though I wasn't even living there. I would understand a holding fee, but paying $350 just to hold a spot is utterly ridiculous. I've done the math, and by the time I do get the full $700 or so, it would be time for next month's rent, which would add another $350 on top of that. That means I would essentially have to earn over $1000 in less than a month, literally impossible for someone on my salary.
And here's the icing on the cake; if I decide NOT to move in, they still want to charge me full rent for August AND September. Regardless of what I do, I'll still be down at least $700.
I could really use some help/advice, guys. I'm at a loss at this point. I do NOT want to take out any loans.
TL;DR: | Haven't moved into apartment yet, getting charged full price for past two months. If I cancel, still getting charged $700. If I don't cancel, I'll have to come up with $1,000 by next month. | Am I being charged for an apartment I've not even moved into yet?
EDIT: Thanks for the responses guys. I had no idea this would get so much attention. I really appreciate it. I'll have to see if I can get in contact with them again next week. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I'm being charged for an apartment I haven't even moved into yet.
POST: I originally was expecting to move into my new apartment in August, but due to some instability at the time, I was forced to stay with a friend and wait until this month to move in. Today, I received a message from them asking if I was still moving in, and responded that I was since I was receiving my bi-weekly paycheck that would give me enough to pay this month's rent of about $350 (along with a few necessities).
They then proceeded to tell me that if I did move in, I would also have to pay the whole first month's rent on top of that, even though I wasn't even living there. I would understand a holding fee, but paying $350 just to hold a spot is utterly ridiculous. I've done the math, and by the time I do get the full $700 or so, it would be time for next month's rent, which would add another $350 on top of that. That means I would essentially have to earn over $1000 in less than a month, literally impossible for someone on my salary.
And here's the icing on the cake; if I decide NOT to move in, they still want to charge me full rent for August AND September. Regardless of what I do, I'll still be down at least $700.
I could really use some help/advice, guys. I'm at a loss at this point. I do NOT want to take out any loans.
TL;DR: | I'm being charged $350 for a place I haven't even moved into yet. I'm looking for any advice or advice of any kind, because I want to get out of this. | Can't afford to move in, and they're charging me for it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I'm being charged for an apartment I haven't even moved into yet.
POST: I originally was expecting to move into my new apartment in August, but due to some instability at the time, I was forced to stay with a friend and wait until this month to move in. Today, I received a message from them asking if I was still moving in, and responded that I was since I was receiving my bi-weekly paycheck that would give me enough to pay this month's rent of about $350 (along with a few necessities).
They then proceeded to tell me that if I did move in, I would also have to pay the whole first month's rent on top of that, even though I wasn't even living there. I would understand a holding fee, but paying $350 just to hold a spot is utterly ridiculous. I've done the math, and by the time I do get the full $700 or so, it would be time for next month's rent, which would add another $350 on top of that. That means I would essentially have to earn over $1000 in less than a month, literally impossible for someone on my salary.
And here's the icing on the cake; if I decide NOT to move in, they still want to charge me full rent for August AND September. Regardless of what I do, I'll still be down at least $700.
I could really use some help/advice, guys. I'm at a loss at this point. I do NOT want to take out any loans.
TL;DR: | Haven't moved into apartment yet, getting charged full price for past two months. If I cancel, still getting charged $700. If I don't cancel, I'll have to come up with $1,000 by next month. | I'm being charged $350 for a place I haven't even moved into yet. I'm looking for any advice or advice of any kind, because I want to get out of this. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I'm being charged for an apartment I haven't even moved into yet.
POST: I originally was expecting to move into my new apartment in August, but due to some instability at the time, I was forced to stay with a friend and wait until this month to move in. Today, I received a message from them asking if I was still moving in, and responded that I was since I was receiving my bi-weekly paycheck that would give me enough to pay this month's rent of about $350 (along with a few necessities).
They then proceeded to tell me that if I did move in, I would also have to pay the whole first month's rent on top of that, even though I wasn't even living there. I would understand a holding fee, but paying $350 just to hold a spot is utterly ridiculous. I've done the math, and by the time I do get the full $700 or so, it would be time for next month's rent, which would add another $350 on top of that. That means I would essentially have to earn over $1000 in less than a month, literally impossible for someone on my salary.
And here's the icing on the cake; if I decide NOT to move in, they still want to charge me full rent for August AND September. Regardless of what I do, I'll still be down at least $700.
I could really use some help/advice, guys. I'm at a loss at this point. I do NOT want to take out any loans.
TL;DR: | Haven't moved into apartment yet, getting charged full price for past two months. If I cancel, still getting charged $700. If I don't cancel, I'll have to come up with $1,000 by next month. | Am I being charged for an apartment I've not even moved into yet?
EDIT: Thanks for the responses guys. I had no idea this would get so much attention. I really appreciate it. I'll have to see if I can get in contact with them again next week. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I'm being charged for an apartment I haven't even moved into yet.
POST: I originally was expecting to move into my new apartment in August, but due to some instability at the time, I was forced to stay with a friend and wait until this month to move in. Today, I received a message from them asking if I was still moving in, and responded that I was since I was receiving my bi-weekly paycheck that would give me enough to pay this month's rent of about $350 (along with a few necessities).
They then proceeded to tell me that if I did move in, I would also have to pay the whole first month's rent on top of that, even though I wasn't even living there. I would understand a holding fee, but paying $350 just to hold a spot is utterly ridiculous. I've done the math, and by the time I do get the full $700 or so, it would be time for next month's rent, which would add another $350 on top of that. That means I would essentially have to earn over $1000 in less than a month, literally impossible for someone on my salary.
And here's the icing on the cake; if I decide NOT to move in, they still want to charge me full rent for August AND September. Regardless of what I do, I'll still be down at least $700.
I could really use some help/advice, guys. I'm at a loss at this point. I do NOT want to take out any loans.
TL;DR: | Can't afford to move in, and they're charging me for it. | I'm being charged $350 for a place I haven't even moved into yet. I'm looking for any advice or advice of any kind, because I want to get out of this. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I'm being charged for an apartment I haven't even moved into yet.
POST: I originally was expecting to move into my new apartment in August, but due to some instability at the time, I was forced to stay with a friend and wait until this month to move in. Today, I received a message from them asking if I was still moving in, and responded that I was since I was receiving my bi-weekly paycheck that would give me enough to pay this month's rent of about $350 (along with a few necessities).
They then proceeded to tell me that if I did move in, I would also have to pay the whole first month's rent on top of that, even though I wasn't even living there. I would understand a holding fee, but paying $350 just to hold a spot is utterly ridiculous. I've done the math, and by the time I do get the full $700 or so, it would be time for next month's rent, which would add another $350 on top of that. That means I would essentially have to earn over $1000 in less than a month, literally impossible for someone on my salary.
And here's the icing on the cake; if I decide NOT to move in, they still want to charge me full rent for August AND September. Regardless of what I do, I'll still be down at least $700.
I could really use some help/advice, guys. I'm at a loss at this point. I do NOT want to take out any loans.
TL;DR: | Haven't moved into apartment yet, getting charged full price for past two months. If I cancel, still getting charged $700. If I don't cancel, I'll have to come up with $1,000 by next month. | I'm being charged $350 for a place I haven't even moved into yet. I'm looking for any advice or advice of any kind, because I want to get out of this. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I'm being charged for an apartment I haven't even moved into yet.
POST: I originally was expecting to move into my new apartment in August, but due to some instability at the time, I was forced to stay with a friend and wait until this month to move in. Today, I received a message from them asking if I was still moving in, and responded that I was since I was receiving my bi-weekly paycheck that would give me enough to pay this month's rent of about $350 (along with a few necessities).
They then proceeded to tell me that if I did move in, I would also have to pay the whole first month's rent on top of that, even though I wasn't even living there. I would understand a holding fee, but paying $350 just to hold a spot is utterly ridiculous. I've done the math, and by the time I do get the full $700 or so, it would be time for next month's rent, which would add another $350 on top of that. That means I would essentially have to earn over $1000 in less than a month, literally impossible for someone on my salary.
And here's the icing on the cake; if I decide NOT to move in, they still want to charge me full rent for August AND September. Regardless of what I do, I'll still be down at least $700.
I could really use some help/advice, guys. I'm at a loss at this point. I do NOT want to take out any loans.
TL;DR: | Haven't moved into apartment yet, getting charged full price for past two months. If I cancel, still getting charged $700. If I don't cancel, I'll have to come up with $1,000 by next month. | Am I being charged for an apartment I've not even moved into yet?
EDIT: Thanks for the responses guys. I had no idea this would get so much attention. I really appreciate it. I'll have to see if I can get in contact with them again next week. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I'm being charged for an apartment I haven't even moved into yet.
POST: I originally was expecting to move into my new apartment in August, but due to some instability at the time, I was forced to stay with a friend and wait until this month to move in. Today, I received a message from them asking if I was still moving in, and responded that I was since I was receiving my bi-weekly paycheck that would give me enough to pay this month's rent of about $350 (along with a few necessities).
They then proceeded to tell me that if I did move in, I would also have to pay the whole first month's rent on top of that, even though I wasn't even living there. I would understand a holding fee, but paying $350 just to hold a spot is utterly ridiculous. I've done the math, and by the time I do get the full $700 or so, it would be time for next month's rent, which would add another $350 on top of that. That means I would essentially have to earn over $1000 in less than a month, literally impossible for someone on my salary.
And here's the icing on the cake; if I decide NOT to move in, they still want to charge me full rent for August AND September. Regardless of what I do, I'll still be down at least $700.
I could really use some help/advice, guys. I'm at a loss at this point. I do NOT want to take out any loans.
TL;DR: | I'm being charged $350 for a place I haven't even moved into yet. I'm looking for any advice or advice of any kind, because I want to get out of this. | Can't afford to move in, and they're charging me for it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I'm being charged for an apartment I haven't even moved into yet.
POST: I originally was expecting to move into my new apartment in August, but due to some instability at the time, I was forced to stay with a friend and wait until this month to move in. Today, I received a message from them asking if I was still moving in, and responded that I was since I was receiving my bi-weekly paycheck that would give me enough to pay this month's rent of about $350 (along with a few necessities).
They then proceeded to tell me that if I did move in, I would also have to pay the whole first month's rent on top of that, even though I wasn't even living there. I would understand a holding fee, but paying $350 just to hold a spot is utterly ridiculous. I've done the math, and by the time I do get the full $700 or so, it would be time for next month's rent, which would add another $350 on top of that. That means I would essentially have to earn over $1000 in less than a month, literally impossible for someone on my salary.
And here's the icing on the cake; if I decide NOT to move in, they still want to charge me full rent for August AND September. Regardless of what I do, I'll still be down at least $700.
I could really use some help/advice, guys. I'm at a loss at this point. I do NOT want to take out any loans.
TL;DR: | I'm being charged $350 for a place I haven't even moved into yet. I'm looking for any advice or advice of any kind, because I want to get out of this. | Haven't moved into apartment yet, getting charged full price for past two months. If I cancel, still getting charged $700. If I don't cancel, I'll have to come up with $1,000 by next month. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I'm being charged for an apartment I haven't even moved into yet.
POST: I originally was expecting to move into my new apartment in August, but due to some instability at the time, I was forced to stay with a friend and wait until this month to move in. Today, I received a message from them asking if I was still moving in, and responded that I was since I was receiving my bi-weekly paycheck that would give me enough to pay this month's rent of about $350 (along with a few necessities).
They then proceeded to tell me that if I did move in, I would also have to pay the whole first month's rent on top of that, even though I wasn't even living there. I would understand a holding fee, but paying $350 just to hold a spot is utterly ridiculous. I've done the math, and by the time I do get the full $700 or so, it would be time for next month's rent, which would add another $350 on top of that. That means I would essentially have to earn over $1000 in less than a month, literally impossible for someone on my salary.
And here's the icing on the cake; if I decide NOT to move in, they still want to charge me full rent for August AND September. Regardless of what I do, I'll still be down at least $700.
I could really use some help/advice, guys. I'm at a loss at this point. I do NOT want to take out any loans.
TL;DR: | Haven't moved into apartment yet, getting charged full price for past two months. If I cancel, still getting charged $700. If I don't cancel, I'll have to come up with $1,000 by next month. | Am I being charged for an apartment I've not even moved into yet?
EDIT: Thanks for the responses guys. I had no idea this would get so much attention. I really appreciate it. I'll have to see if I can get in contact with them again next week. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I'm being charged for an apartment I haven't even moved into yet.
POST: I originally was expecting to move into my new apartment in August, but due to some instability at the time, I was forced to stay with a friend and wait until this month to move in. Today, I received a message from them asking if I was still moving in, and responded that I was since I was receiving my bi-weekly paycheck that would give me enough to pay this month's rent of about $350 (along with a few necessities).
They then proceeded to tell me that if I did move in, I would also have to pay the whole first month's rent on top of that, even though I wasn't even living there. I would understand a holding fee, but paying $350 just to hold a spot is utterly ridiculous. I've done the math, and by the time I do get the full $700 or so, it would be time for next month's rent, which would add another $350 on top of that. That means I would essentially have to earn over $1000 in less than a month, literally impossible for someone on my salary.
And here's the icing on the cake; if I decide NOT to move in, they still want to charge me full rent for August AND September. Regardless of what I do, I'll still be down at least $700.
I could really use some help/advice, guys. I'm at a loss at this point. I do NOT want to take out any loans.
TL;DR: | I'm being charged $350 for a place I haven't even moved into yet. I'm looking for any advice or advice of any kind, because I want to get out of this. | Can't afford to move in, and they're charging me for it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I'm being charged for an apartment I haven't even moved into yet.
POST: I originally was expecting to move into my new apartment in August, but due to some instability at the time, I was forced to stay with a friend and wait until this month to move in. Today, I received a message from them asking if I was still moving in, and responded that I was since I was receiving my bi-weekly paycheck that would give me enough to pay this month's rent of about $350 (along with a few necessities).
They then proceeded to tell me that if I did move in, I would also have to pay the whole first month's rent on top of that, even though I wasn't even living there. I would understand a holding fee, but paying $350 just to hold a spot is utterly ridiculous. I've done the math, and by the time I do get the full $700 or so, it would be time for next month's rent, which would add another $350 on top of that. That means I would essentially have to earn over $1000 in less than a month, literally impossible for someone on my salary.
And here's the icing on the cake; if I decide NOT to move in, they still want to charge me full rent for August AND September. Regardless of what I do, I'll still be down at least $700.
I could really use some help/advice, guys. I'm at a loss at this point. I do NOT want to take out any loans.
TL;DR: | Haven't moved into apartment yet, getting charged full price for past two months. If I cancel, still getting charged $700. If I don't cancel, I'll have to come up with $1,000 by next month. | I'm being charged $350 for a place I haven't even moved into yet. I'm looking for any advice or advice of any kind, because I want to get out of this. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I'm being charged for an apartment I haven't even moved into yet.
POST: I originally was expecting to move into my new apartment in August, but due to some instability at the time, I was forced to stay with a friend and wait until this month to move in. Today, I received a message from them asking if I was still moving in, and responded that I was since I was receiving my bi-weekly paycheck that would give me enough to pay this month's rent of about $350 (along with a few necessities).
They then proceeded to tell me that if I did move in, I would also have to pay the whole first month's rent on top of that, even though I wasn't even living there. I would understand a holding fee, but paying $350 just to hold a spot is utterly ridiculous. I've done the math, and by the time I do get the full $700 or so, it would be time for next month's rent, which would add another $350 on top of that. That means I would essentially have to earn over $1000 in less than a month, literally impossible for someone on my salary.
And here's the icing on the cake; if I decide NOT to move in, they still want to charge me full rent for August AND September. Regardless of what I do, I'll still be down at least $700.
I could really use some help/advice, guys. I'm at a loss at this point. I do NOT want to take out any loans.
TL;DR: | Haven't moved into apartment yet, getting charged full price for past two months. If I cancel, still getting charged $700. If I don't cancel, I'll have to come up with $1,000 by next month. | Am I being charged for an apartment I've not even moved into yet?
EDIT: Thanks for the responses guys. I had no idea this would get so much attention. I really appreciate it. I'll have to see if I can get in contact with them again next week. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I'm being charged for an apartment I haven't even moved into yet.
POST: I originally was expecting to move into my new apartment in August, but due to some instability at the time, I was forced to stay with a friend and wait until this month to move in. Today, I received a message from them asking if I was still moving in, and responded that I was since I was receiving my bi-weekly paycheck that would give me enough to pay this month's rent of about $350 (along with a few necessities).
They then proceeded to tell me that if I did move in, I would also have to pay the whole first month's rent on top of that, even though I wasn't even living there. I would understand a holding fee, but paying $350 just to hold a spot is utterly ridiculous. I've done the math, and by the time I do get the full $700 or so, it would be time for next month's rent, which would add another $350 on top of that. That means I would essentially have to earn over $1000 in less than a month, literally impossible for someone on my salary.
And here's the icing on the cake; if I decide NOT to move in, they still want to charge me full rent for August AND September. Regardless of what I do, I'll still be down at least $700.
I could really use some help/advice, guys. I'm at a loss at this point. I do NOT want to take out any loans.
TL;DR: | I'm being charged $350 for a place I haven't even moved into yet. I'm looking for any advice or advice of any kind, because I want to get out of this. | Can't afford to move in, and they're charging me for it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I'm being charged for an apartment I haven't even moved into yet.
POST: I originally was expecting to move into my new apartment in August, but due to some instability at the time, I was forced to stay with a friend and wait until this month to move in. Today, I received a message from them asking if I was still moving in, and responded that I was since I was receiving my bi-weekly paycheck that would give me enough to pay this month's rent of about $350 (along with a few necessities).
They then proceeded to tell me that if I did move in, I would also have to pay the whole first month's rent on top of that, even though I wasn't even living there. I would understand a holding fee, but paying $350 just to hold a spot is utterly ridiculous. I've done the math, and by the time I do get the full $700 or so, it would be time for next month's rent, which would add another $350 on top of that. That means I would essentially have to earn over $1000 in less than a month, literally impossible for someone on my salary.
And here's the icing on the cake; if I decide NOT to move in, they still want to charge me full rent for August AND September. Regardless of what I do, I'll still be down at least $700.
I could really use some help/advice, guys. I'm at a loss at this point. I do NOT want to take out any loans.
TL;DR: | I'm being charged $350 for a place I haven't even moved into yet. I'm looking for any advice or advice of any kind, because I want to get out of this. | Haven't moved into apartment yet, getting charged full price for past two months. If I cancel, still getting charged $700. If I don't cancel, I'll have to come up with $1,000 by next month. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I'm being charged for an apartment I haven't even moved into yet.
POST: I originally was expecting to move into my new apartment in August, but due to some instability at the time, I was forced to stay with a friend and wait until this month to move in. Today, I received a message from them asking if I was still moving in, and responded that I was since I was receiving my bi-weekly paycheck that would give me enough to pay this month's rent of about $350 (along with a few necessities).
They then proceeded to tell me that if I did move in, I would also have to pay the whole first month's rent on top of that, even though I wasn't even living there. I would understand a holding fee, but paying $350 just to hold a spot is utterly ridiculous. I've done the math, and by the time I do get the full $700 or so, it would be time for next month's rent, which would add another $350 on top of that. That means I would essentially have to earn over $1000 in less than a month, literally impossible for someone on my salary.
And here's the icing on the cake; if I decide NOT to move in, they still want to charge me full rent for August AND September. Regardless of what I do, I'll still be down at least $700.
I could really use some help/advice, guys. I'm at a loss at this point. I do NOT want to take out any loans.
TL;DR: | Haven't moved into apartment yet, getting charged full price for past two months. If I cancel, still getting charged $700. If I don't cancel, I'll have to come up with $1,000 by next month. | Am I being charged for an apartment I've not even moved into yet?
EDIT: Thanks for the responses guys. I had no idea this would get so much attention. I really appreciate it. I'll have to see if I can get in contact with them again next week. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I'm being charged for an apartment I haven't even moved into yet.
POST: I originally was expecting to move into my new apartment in August, but due to some instability at the time, I was forced to stay with a friend and wait until this month to move in. Today, I received a message from them asking if I was still moving in, and responded that I was since I was receiving my bi-weekly paycheck that would give me enough to pay this month's rent of about $350 (along with a few necessities).
They then proceeded to tell me that if I did move in, I would also have to pay the whole first month's rent on top of that, even though I wasn't even living there. I would understand a holding fee, but paying $350 just to hold a spot is utterly ridiculous. I've done the math, and by the time I do get the full $700 or so, it would be time for next month's rent, which would add another $350 on top of that. That means I would essentially have to earn over $1000 in less than a month, literally impossible for someone on my salary.
And here's the icing on the cake; if I decide NOT to move in, they still want to charge me full rent for August AND September. Regardless of what I do, I'll still be down at least $700.
I could really use some help/advice, guys. I'm at a loss at this point. I do NOT want to take out any loans.
TL;DR: | I'm being charged $350 for a place I haven't even moved into yet. I'm looking for any advice or advice of any kind, because I want to get out of this. | Can't afford to move in, and they're charging me for it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I'm being charged for an apartment I haven't even moved into yet.
POST: I originally was expecting to move into my new apartment in August, but due to some instability at the time, I was forced to stay with a friend and wait until this month to move in. Today, I received a message from them asking if I was still moving in, and responded that I was since I was receiving my bi-weekly paycheck that would give me enough to pay this month's rent of about $350 (along with a few necessities).
They then proceeded to tell me that if I did move in, I would also have to pay the whole first month's rent on top of that, even though I wasn't even living there. I would understand a holding fee, but paying $350 just to hold a spot is utterly ridiculous. I've done the math, and by the time I do get the full $700 or so, it would be time for next month's rent, which would add another $350 on top of that. That means I would essentially have to earn over $1000 in less than a month, literally impossible for someone on my salary.
And here's the icing on the cake; if I decide NOT to move in, they still want to charge me full rent for August AND September. Regardless of what I do, I'll still be down at least $700.
I could really use some help/advice, guys. I'm at a loss at this point. I do NOT want to take out any loans.
TL;DR: | Haven't moved into apartment yet, getting charged full price for past two months. If I cancel, still getting charged $700. If I don't cancel, I'll have to come up with $1,000 by next month. | I'm being charged $350 for a place I haven't even moved into yet. I'm looking for any advice or advice of any kind, because I want to get out of this. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I'm being charged for an apartment I haven't even moved into yet.
POST: I originally was expecting to move into my new apartment in August, but due to some instability at the time, I was forced to stay with a friend and wait until this month to move in. Today, I received a message from them asking if I was still moving in, and responded that I was since I was receiving my bi-weekly paycheck that would give me enough to pay this month's rent of about $350 (along with a few necessities).
They then proceeded to tell me that if I did move in, I would also have to pay the whole first month's rent on top of that, even though I wasn't even living there. I would understand a holding fee, but paying $350 just to hold a spot is utterly ridiculous. I've done the math, and by the time I do get the full $700 or so, it would be time for next month's rent, which would add another $350 on top of that. That means I would essentially have to earn over $1000 in less than a month, literally impossible for someone on my salary.
And here's the icing on the cake; if I decide NOT to move in, they still want to charge me full rent for August AND September. Regardless of what I do, I'll still be down at least $700.
I could really use some help/advice, guys. I'm at a loss at this point. I do NOT want to take out any loans.
TL;DR: | Haven't moved into apartment yet, getting charged full price for past two months. If I cancel, still getting charged $700. If I don't cancel, I'll have to come up with $1,000 by next month. | Am I being charged for an apartment I've not even moved into yet?
EDIT: Thanks for the responses guys. I had no idea this would get so much attention. I really appreciate it. I'll have to see if I can get in contact with them again next week. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I'm being charged for an apartment I haven't even moved into yet.
POST: I originally was expecting to move into my new apartment in August, but due to some instability at the time, I was forced to stay with a friend and wait until this month to move in. Today, I received a message from them asking if I was still moving in, and responded that I was since I was receiving my bi-weekly paycheck that would give me enough to pay this month's rent of about $350 (along with a few necessities).
They then proceeded to tell me that if I did move in, I would also have to pay the whole first month's rent on top of that, even though I wasn't even living there. I would understand a holding fee, but paying $350 just to hold a spot is utterly ridiculous. I've done the math, and by the time I do get the full $700 or so, it would be time for next month's rent, which would add another $350 on top of that. That means I would essentially have to earn over $1000 in less than a month, literally impossible for someone on my salary.
And here's the icing on the cake; if I decide NOT to move in, they still want to charge me full rent for August AND September. Regardless of what I do, I'll still be down at least $700.
I could really use some help/advice, guys. I'm at a loss at this point. I do NOT want to take out any loans.
TL;DR: | I'm being charged $350 for a place I haven't even moved into yet. I'm looking for any advice or advice of any kind, because I want to get out of this. | Can't afford to move in, and they're charging me for it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I'm being charged for an apartment I haven't even moved into yet.
POST: I originally was expecting to move into my new apartment in August, but due to some instability at the time, I was forced to stay with a friend and wait until this month to move in. Today, I received a message from them asking if I was still moving in, and responded that I was since I was receiving my bi-weekly paycheck that would give me enough to pay this month's rent of about $350 (along with a few necessities).
They then proceeded to tell me that if I did move in, I would also have to pay the whole first month's rent on top of that, even though I wasn't even living there. I would understand a holding fee, but paying $350 just to hold a spot is utterly ridiculous. I've done the math, and by the time I do get the full $700 or so, it would be time for next month's rent, which would add another $350 on top of that. That means I would essentially have to earn over $1000 in less than a month, literally impossible for someone on my salary.
And here's the icing on the cake; if I decide NOT to move in, they still want to charge me full rent for August AND September. Regardless of what I do, I'll still be down at least $700.
I could really use some help/advice, guys. I'm at a loss at this point. I do NOT want to take out any loans.
TL;DR: | I'm being charged $350 for a place I haven't even moved into yet. I'm looking for any advice or advice of any kind, because I want to get out of this. | Haven't moved into apartment yet, getting charged full price for past two months. If I cancel, still getting charged $700. If I don't cancel, I'll have to come up with $1,000 by next month. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I'm being charged for an apartment I haven't even moved into yet.
POST: I originally was expecting to move into my new apartment in August, but due to some instability at the time, I was forced to stay with a friend and wait until this month to move in. Today, I received a message from them asking if I was still moving in, and responded that I was since I was receiving my bi-weekly paycheck that would give me enough to pay this month's rent of about $350 (along with a few necessities).
They then proceeded to tell me that if I did move in, I would also have to pay the whole first month's rent on top of that, even though I wasn't even living there. I would understand a holding fee, but paying $350 just to hold a spot is utterly ridiculous. I've done the math, and by the time I do get the full $700 or so, it would be time for next month's rent, which would add another $350 on top of that. That means I would essentially have to earn over $1000 in less than a month, literally impossible for someone on my salary.
And here's the icing on the cake; if I decide NOT to move in, they still want to charge me full rent for August AND September. Regardless of what I do, I'll still be down at least $700.
I could really use some help/advice, guys. I'm at a loss at this point. I do NOT want to take out any loans.
TL;DR: | Haven't moved into apartment yet, getting charged full price for past two months. If I cancel, still getting charged $700. If I don't cancel, I'll have to come up with $1,000 by next month. | Am I being charged for an apartment I've not even moved into yet?
EDIT: Thanks for the responses guys. I had no idea this would get so much attention. I really appreciate it. I'll have to see if I can get in contact with them again next week. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I'm being charged for an apartment I haven't even moved into yet.
POST: I originally was expecting to move into my new apartment in August, but due to some instability at the time, I was forced to stay with a friend and wait until this month to move in. Today, I received a message from them asking if I was still moving in, and responded that I was since I was receiving my bi-weekly paycheck that would give me enough to pay this month's rent of about $350 (along with a few necessities).
They then proceeded to tell me that if I did move in, I would also have to pay the whole first month's rent on top of that, even though I wasn't even living there. I would understand a holding fee, but paying $350 just to hold a spot is utterly ridiculous. I've done the math, and by the time I do get the full $700 or so, it would be time for next month's rent, which would add another $350 on top of that. That means I would essentially have to earn over $1000 in less than a month, literally impossible for someone on my salary.
And here's the icing on the cake; if I decide NOT to move in, they still want to charge me full rent for August AND September. Regardless of what I do, I'll still be down at least $700.
I could really use some help/advice, guys. I'm at a loss at this point. I do NOT want to take out any loans.
TL;DR: | I'm being charged $350 for a place I haven't even moved into yet. I'm looking for any advice or advice of any kind, because I want to get out of this. | Can't afford to move in, and they're charging me for it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I'm being charged for an apartment I haven't even moved into yet.
POST: I originally was expecting to move into my new apartment in August, but due to some instability at the time, I was forced to stay with a friend and wait until this month to move in. Today, I received a message from them asking if I was still moving in, and responded that I was since I was receiving my bi-weekly paycheck that would give me enough to pay this month's rent of about $350 (along with a few necessities).
They then proceeded to tell me that if I did move in, I would also have to pay the whole first month's rent on top of that, even though I wasn't even living there. I would understand a holding fee, but paying $350 just to hold a spot is utterly ridiculous. I've done the math, and by the time I do get the full $700 or so, it would be time for next month's rent, which would add another $350 on top of that. That means I would essentially have to earn over $1000 in less than a month, literally impossible for someone on my salary.
And here's the icing on the cake; if I decide NOT to move in, they still want to charge me full rent for August AND September. Regardless of what I do, I'll still be down at least $700.
I could really use some help/advice, guys. I'm at a loss at this point. I do NOT want to take out any loans.
TL;DR: | Haven't moved into apartment yet, getting charged full price for past two months. If I cancel, still getting charged $700. If I don't cancel, I'll have to come up with $1,000 by next month. | I'm being charged $350 for a place I haven't even moved into yet. I'm looking for any advice or advice of any kind, because I want to get out of this. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I'm being charged for an apartment I haven't even moved into yet.
POST: I originally was expecting to move into my new apartment in August, but due to some instability at the time, I was forced to stay with a friend and wait until this month to move in. Today, I received a message from them asking if I was still moving in, and responded that I was since I was receiving my bi-weekly paycheck that would give me enough to pay this month's rent of about $350 (along with a few necessities).
They then proceeded to tell me that if I did move in, I would also have to pay the whole first month's rent on top of that, even though I wasn't even living there. I would understand a holding fee, but paying $350 just to hold a spot is utterly ridiculous. I've done the math, and by the time I do get the full $700 or so, it would be time for next month's rent, which would add another $350 on top of that. That means I would essentially have to earn over $1000 in less than a month, literally impossible for someone on my salary.
And here's the icing on the cake; if I decide NOT to move in, they still want to charge me full rent for August AND September. Regardless of what I do, I'll still be down at least $700.
I could really use some help/advice, guys. I'm at a loss at this point. I do NOT want to take out any loans.
TL;DR: | Haven't moved into apartment yet, getting charged full price for past two months. If I cancel, still getting charged $700. If I don't cancel, I'll have to come up with $1,000 by next month. | Am I being charged for an apartment I've not even moved into yet?
EDIT: Thanks for the responses guys. I had no idea this would get so much attention. I really appreciate it. I'll have to see if I can get in contact with them again next week. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I'm being charged for an apartment I haven't even moved into yet.
POST: I originally was expecting to move into my new apartment in August, but due to some instability at the time, I was forced to stay with a friend and wait until this month to move in. Today, I received a message from them asking if I was still moving in, and responded that I was since I was receiving my bi-weekly paycheck that would give me enough to pay this month's rent of about $350 (along with a few necessities).
They then proceeded to tell me that if I did move in, I would also have to pay the whole first month's rent on top of that, even though I wasn't even living there. I would understand a holding fee, but paying $350 just to hold a spot is utterly ridiculous. I've done the math, and by the time I do get the full $700 or so, it would be time for next month's rent, which would add another $350 on top of that. That means I would essentially have to earn over $1000 in less than a month, literally impossible for someone on my salary.
And here's the icing on the cake; if I decide NOT to move in, they still want to charge me full rent for August AND September. Regardless of what I do, I'll still be down at least $700.
I could really use some help/advice, guys. I'm at a loss at this point. I do NOT want to take out any loans.
TL;DR: | I'm being charged $350 for a place I haven't even moved into yet. I'm looking for any advice or advice of any kind, because I want to get out of this. | Can't afford to move in, and they're charging me for it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I'm being charged for an apartment I haven't even moved into yet.
POST: I originally was expecting to move into my new apartment in August, but due to some instability at the time, I was forced to stay with a friend and wait until this month to move in. Today, I received a message from them asking if I was still moving in, and responded that I was since I was receiving my bi-weekly paycheck that would give me enough to pay this month's rent of about $350 (along with a few necessities).
They then proceeded to tell me that if I did move in, I would also have to pay the whole first month's rent on top of that, even though I wasn't even living there. I would understand a holding fee, but paying $350 just to hold a spot is utterly ridiculous. I've done the math, and by the time I do get the full $700 or so, it would be time for next month's rent, which would add another $350 on top of that. That means I would essentially have to earn over $1000 in less than a month, literally impossible for someone on my salary.
And here's the icing on the cake; if I decide NOT to move in, they still want to charge me full rent for August AND September. Regardless of what I do, I'll still be down at least $700.
I could really use some help/advice, guys. I'm at a loss at this point. I do NOT want to take out any loans.
TL;DR: | Haven't moved into apartment yet, getting charged full price for past two months. If I cancel, still getting charged $700. If I don't cancel, I'll have to come up with $1,000 by next month. | I'm being charged $350 for a place I haven't even moved into yet. I'm looking for any advice or advice of any kind, because I want to get out of this. |
SUBREDDIT: r/personalfinance
TITLE: I'm being charged for an apartment I haven't even moved into yet.
POST: I originally was expecting to move into my new apartment in August, but due to some instability at the time, I was forced to stay with a friend and wait until this month to move in. Today, I received a message from them asking if I was still moving in, and responded that I was since I was receiving my bi-weekly paycheck that would give me enough to pay this month's rent of about $350 (along with a few necessities).
They then proceeded to tell me that if I did move in, I would also have to pay the whole first month's rent on top of that, even though I wasn't even living there. I would understand a holding fee, but paying $350 just to hold a spot is utterly ridiculous. I've done the math, and by the time I do get the full $700 or so, it would be time for next month's rent, which would add another $350 on top of that. That means I would essentially have to earn over $1000 in less than a month, literally impossible for someone on my salary.
And here's the icing on the cake; if I decide NOT to move in, they still want to charge me full rent for August AND September. Regardless of what I do, I'll still be down at least $700.
I could really use some help/advice, guys. I'm at a loss at this point. I do NOT want to take out any loans.
TL;DR: | Haven't moved into apartment yet, getting charged full price for past two months. If I cancel, still getting charged $700. If I don't cancel, I'll have to come up with $1,000 by next month. | Am I being charged for an apartment I've not even moved into yet?
EDIT: Thanks for the responses guys. I had no idea this would get so much attention. I really appreciate it. I'll have to see if I can get in contact with them again next week. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [27F] with my [27 M] been together 5 years, feel like boyfriend is complacent and uninvolved
POST: Hey! So bf and I have been together for 5 years and he is uber sweet and I know he loves me etc. but lately, as the novelty of the relationship has worn off, little things are starting to bug me a lot more and I need your help to figure out if I'm being neurotic!
-He doesn't ever surprise me (not even when we first started dating), the only time he would buy flowers was for Valentine's day
- We moved in together 2 years ago and getting him involved in any chores or to do his own laundry is a pain in the butt, he's not super messy but I don't like being the only one cooking and cleaning and taking care of the dog AND reminding him to do his laundry. He volunteers occasionally to do things but the ratio is 90% me, 10% him
-I feel like I wear the pants in the relationship, aka, I have to make decisions about everything and do all the planning for anything we ever do otherwise we'll never do anything fun.
-I feel like I have taught him a lot over the years and learned nothing from him in return
-He lacks motivation when it comes to anything, I've never seen him take initiative and he has a half-decent job but he doesn't have any goals (career or hobby wise) which has become a huge turn off for me
TL;DR: | I feel like I'm the only one in the relationship and I don't know what to do! | boyfriend is complacent and uninvolved but has been pretty great for the past 5 years. I've been able to take advantage of his behaviors and have learned a lot from him but am wanting to figure out if I'm being neurotic or if I need to get out of the relationship. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [27F] with my [27 M] been together 5 years, feel like boyfriend is complacent and uninvolved
POST: Hey! So bf and I have been together for 5 years and he is uber sweet and I know he loves me etc. but lately, as the novelty of the relationship has worn off, little things are starting to bug me a lot more and I need your help to figure out if I'm being neurotic!
-He doesn't ever surprise me (not even when we first started dating), the only time he would buy flowers was for Valentine's day
- We moved in together 2 years ago and getting him involved in any chores or to do his own laundry is a pain in the butt, he's not super messy but I don't like being the only one cooking and cleaning and taking care of the dog AND reminding him to do his laundry. He volunteers occasionally to do things but the ratio is 90% me, 10% him
-I feel like I wear the pants in the relationship, aka, I have to make decisions about everything and do all the planning for anything we ever do otherwise we'll never do anything fun.
-I feel like I have taught him a lot over the years and learned nothing from him in return
-He lacks motivation when it comes to anything, I've never seen him take initiative and he has a half-decent job but he doesn't have any goals (career or hobby wise) which has become a huge turn off for me
TL;DR: | Almost 4 months in, bf isnt involved in any important things in our relationship and I feel like I have to do everything for him and he doesn't have anything to do. how do I get him involved? | Feel like boyfriend lacks balls and romance, please advise! Should I suggest a psychologist for the lack of motivation or talk to him some more or am I just being picky? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [27F] with my [27 M] been together 5 years, feel like boyfriend is complacent and uninvolved
POST: Hey! So bf and I have been together for 5 years and he is uber sweet and I know he loves me etc. but lately, as the novelty of the relationship has worn off, little things are starting to bug me a lot more and I need your help to figure out if I'm being neurotic!
-He doesn't ever surprise me (not even when we first started dating), the only time he would buy flowers was for Valentine's day
- We moved in together 2 years ago and getting him involved in any chores or to do his own laundry is a pain in the butt, he's not super messy but I don't like being the only one cooking and cleaning and taking care of the dog AND reminding him to do his laundry. He volunteers occasionally to do things but the ratio is 90% me, 10% him
-I feel like I wear the pants in the relationship, aka, I have to make decisions about everything and do all the planning for anything we ever do otherwise we'll never do anything fun.
-I feel like I have taught him a lot over the years and learned nothing from him in return
-He lacks motivation when it comes to anything, I've never seen him take initiative and he has a half-decent job but he doesn't have any goals (career or hobby wise) which has become a huge turn off for me
TL;DR: | boyfriend is complacent and uninvolved but has been pretty great for the past 5 years. I've been able to take advantage of his behaviors and have learned a lot from him but am wanting to figure out if I'm being neurotic or if I need to get out of the relationship. | Feel like boyfriend lacks balls and romance, please advise! Should I suggest a psychologist for the lack of motivation or talk to him some more or am I just being picky? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [27F] with my [27 M] been together 5 years, feel like boyfriend is complacent and uninvolved
POST: Hey! So bf and I have been together for 5 years and he is uber sweet and I know he loves me etc. but lately, as the novelty of the relationship has worn off, little things are starting to bug me a lot more and I need your help to figure out if I'm being neurotic!
-He doesn't ever surprise me (not even when we first started dating), the only time he would buy flowers was for Valentine's day
- We moved in together 2 years ago and getting him involved in any chores or to do his own laundry is a pain in the butt, he's not super messy but I don't like being the only one cooking and cleaning and taking care of the dog AND reminding him to do his laundry. He volunteers occasionally to do things but the ratio is 90% me, 10% him
-I feel like I wear the pants in the relationship, aka, I have to make decisions about everything and do all the planning for anything we ever do otherwise we'll never do anything fun.
-I feel like I have taught him a lot over the years and learned nothing from him in return
-He lacks motivation when it comes to anything, I've never seen him take initiative and he has a half-decent job but he doesn't have any goals (career or hobby wise) which has become a huge turn off for me
TL;DR: | I feel like I'm the only one in the relationship and I don't know what to do! | Almost 4 months in, bf isnt involved in any important things in our relationship and I feel like I have to do everything for him and he doesn't have anything to do. how do I get him involved? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I [19F] am still stuck in the honey moon phase while my [20M] has moved on
POST: My boyfriend and I have been long distance for over a year now, and up until recently things have been going pretty well. We are able to spend a week together every other month, but in the past few months it has only been a day or two.
At the beginning of the relationship we use to talk all the time, and whenever we both had free time we would talk on skype as much as possible during that time. However in the past few months he hardly texts me throughout the day, and does not want to talk for very long at the end of the day when we call to say goodnight.
I'm understanding if he has a busy schedule, but sometimes he will just be watching tv or playing video games and I'll ask if he would like to talk and he just says no and that he'd rather be alone. I asked him if we could compromise and talk a little more often during the evenings when neither of us have anything to do, and he just says that he doesn't want to fake being happy when he's talking to me if he doesn't want to.
He says he is still very much in love with me, and he is nice and the times that we do talk do go pretty well, I just want more and he doesn't. So any kind of advise would be great, I think I just might be stuck in the honey moon phase while he moved out of it a while ago, there's not much passion from him anymore and it feels shitty honestly.
I think the reason might be is that we have not spent much time together in the past few months and am hoping that maybe things will go back to how they use to be when I'm visiting him for my spring break. I love him a lot and want things to work, but am I over thinking all of this and should be ok that he hardly wants to talk anymore?
TL;DR: | LDR boyfriend hardly wants to talk anymore while I still want to talk as much as we use to and I feel like there's no passion from him anymore | Boyfriend seems to be in the honeymoon phase and I'm not sure that I'm still in love with him. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I [19F] am still stuck in the honey moon phase while my [20M] has moved on
POST: My boyfriend and I have been long distance for over a year now, and up until recently things have been going pretty well. We are able to spend a week together every other month, but in the past few months it has only been a day or two.
At the beginning of the relationship we use to talk all the time, and whenever we both had free time we would talk on skype as much as possible during that time. However in the past few months he hardly texts me throughout the day, and does not want to talk for very long at the end of the day when we call to say goodnight.
I'm understanding if he has a busy schedule, but sometimes he will just be watching tv or playing video games and I'll ask if he would like to talk and he just says no and that he'd rather be alone. I asked him if we could compromise and talk a little more often during the evenings when neither of us have anything to do, and he just says that he doesn't want to fake being happy when he's talking to me if he doesn't want to.
He says he is still very much in love with me, and he is nice and the times that we do talk do go pretty well, I just want more and he doesn't. So any kind of advise would be great, I think I just might be stuck in the honey moon phase while he moved out of it a while ago, there's not much passion from him anymore and it feels shitty honestly.
I think the reason might be is that we have not spent much time together in the past few months and am hoping that maybe things will go back to how they use to be when I'm visiting him for my spring break. I love him a lot and want things to work, but am I over thinking all of this and should be ok that he hardly wants to talk anymore?
TL;DR: | I am stuck in the honeymoon phase of a long distance relationship with my boyfriend and would like advice from others on how to move on and get back on track. | Boyfriend didn't talk to me much when we were together, and now he doesn't want to talk to me much, what do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I [19F] am still stuck in the honey moon phase while my [20M] has moved on
POST: My boyfriend and I have been long distance for over a year now, and up until recently things have been going pretty well. We are able to spend a week together every other month, but in the past few months it has only been a day or two.
At the beginning of the relationship we use to talk all the time, and whenever we both had free time we would talk on skype as much as possible during that time. However in the past few months he hardly texts me throughout the day, and does not want to talk for very long at the end of the day when we call to say goodnight.
I'm understanding if he has a busy schedule, but sometimes he will just be watching tv or playing video games and I'll ask if he would like to talk and he just says no and that he'd rather be alone. I asked him if we could compromise and talk a little more often during the evenings when neither of us have anything to do, and he just says that he doesn't want to fake being happy when he's talking to me if he doesn't want to.
He says he is still very much in love with me, and he is nice and the times that we do talk do go pretty well, I just want more and he doesn't. So any kind of advise would be great, I think I just might be stuck in the honey moon phase while he moved out of it a while ago, there's not much passion from him anymore and it feels shitty honestly.
I think the reason might be is that we have not spent much time together in the past few months and am hoping that maybe things will go back to how they use to be when I'm visiting him for my spring break. I love him a lot and want things to work, but am I over thinking all of this and should be ok that he hardly wants to talk anymore?
TL;DR: | LDR boyfriend hardly wants to talk anymore while I still want to talk as much as we use to and I feel like there's no passion from him anymore | Boyfriend didn't talk to me much when we were together, and now he doesn't want to talk to me much, what do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: I [19F] am still stuck in the honey moon phase while my [20M] has moved on
POST: My boyfriend and I have been long distance for over a year now, and up until recently things have been going pretty well. We are able to spend a week together every other month, but in the past few months it has only been a day or two.
At the beginning of the relationship we use to talk all the time, and whenever we both had free time we would talk on skype as much as possible during that time. However in the past few months he hardly texts me throughout the day, and does not want to talk for very long at the end of the day when we call to say goodnight.
I'm understanding if he has a busy schedule, but sometimes he will just be watching tv or playing video games and I'll ask if he would like to talk and he just says no and that he'd rather be alone. I asked him if we could compromise and talk a little more often during the evenings when neither of us have anything to do, and he just says that he doesn't want to fake being happy when he's talking to me if he doesn't want to.
He says he is still very much in love with me, and he is nice and the times that we do talk do go pretty well, I just want more and he doesn't. So any kind of advise would be great, I think I just might be stuck in the honey moon phase while he moved out of it a while ago, there's not much passion from him anymore and it feels shitty honestly.
I think the reason might be is that we have not spent much time together in the past few months and am hoping that maybe things will go back to how they use to be when I'm visiting him for my spring break. I love him a lot and want things to work, but am I over thinking all of this and should be ok that he hardly wants to talk anymore?
TL;DR: | I am stuck in the honeymoon phase of a long distance relationship with my boyfriend and would like advice from others on how to move on and get back on track. | Boyfriend seems to be in the honeymoon phase and I'm not sure that I'm still in love with him. |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Simple way I keep from overeating
POST: Sounds like clickbait. Promise it's not. I'm hypoglycemic (chronic low blood sugar) which means I get really hungry really frequently and I crash really hard when I eat sugar (conventional things like ice cream as well as bread, rice, etc). But of course I still want to eat an entire pie in one sitting sometimes. I've found that I'm WAY less likely to cave and do that (and then feel awful later, physically/emotionally) if I just eat something BEFORE I'm ravenous. The hungrier I am, the better all the bad, deep-fried things sound. But if I'm just starting to get hungry, I'm satisfied with whatever healthy food I have planned out for the day.
TL;DR: | It's easier to have self control if you don't wait until you're starving to eat. | Eat enough, you'll feel better. Make sure food is healthy, too. |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Simple way I keep from overeating
POST: Sounds like clickbait. Promise it's not. I'm hypoglycemic (chronic low blood sugar) which means I get really hungry really frequently and I crash really hard when I eat sugar (conventional things like ice cream as well as bread, rice, etc). But of course I still want to eat an entire pie in one sitting sometimes. I've found that I'm WAY less likely to cave and do that (and then feel awful later, physically/emotionally) if I just eat something BEFORE I'm ravenous. The hungrier I am, the better all the bad, deep-fried things sound. But if I'm just starting to get hungry, I'm satisfied with whatever healthy food I have planned out for the day.
TL;DR: | Eat enough, you'll feel better. Make sure food is healthy, too. | don't make me feel bad for eating, instead make me feel good about it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Simple way I keep from overeating
POST: Sounds like clickbait. Promise it's not. I'm hypoglycemic (chronic low blood sugar) which means I get really hungry really frequently and I crash really hard when I eat sugar (conventional things like ice cream as well as bread, rice, etc). But of course I still want to eat an entire pie in one sitting sometimes. I've found that I'm WAY less likely to cave and do that (and then feel awful later, physically/emotionally) if I just eat something BEFORE I'm ravenous. The hungrier I am, the better all the bad, deep-fried things sound. But if I'm just starting to get hungry, I'm satisfied with whatever healthy food I have planned out for the day.
TL;DR: | don't make me feel bad for eating, instead make me feel good about it. | w/o making me feel bad about eating too much, I'm super productive. |
SUBREDDIT: r/loseit
TITLE: Simple way I keep from overeating
POST: Sounds like clickbait. Promise it's not. I'm hypoglycemic (chronic low blood sugar) which means I get really hungry really frequently and I crash really hard when I eat sugar (conventional things like ice cream as well as bread, rice, etc). But of course I still want to eat an entire pie in one sitting sometimes. I've found that I'm WAY less likely to cave and do that (and then feel awful later, physically/emotionally) if I just eat something BEFORE I'm ravenous. The hungrier I am, the better all the bad, deep-fried things sound. But if I'm just starting to get hungry, I'm satisfied with whatever healthy food I have planned out for the day.
TL;DR: | It's easier to have self control if you don't wait until you're starving to eat. | w/o making me feel bad about eating too much, I'm super productive. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Update: My wife (27f) left me 6 months ago, and I'm (28m)now contemplating emotionally leaving her.
POST: I'm going to talk to her today in like an hr. She called me this morning and made sure I was planning on talking later. She then said "I don't want to lose you." I told her we would talk at 5:30.
I'm prepared to stick with my decision not to continue to wait for her. I'm pretty sure that nothing has changed for her. She wants to be single. And I'm not willing to keep going through this.
I'm not looking forward to hearing her tell me how much she loves me. and I know she will bring up the whole "if i'm going to be with a guy, it'll be you." That one has been said way to many times (by her.) I expect her to cry. That is going to be so hard. But I'm done.
TL;DR: | My ex is playing games, and I'm about to tell her that I'm not waiting around anymore. | I have talked to my wife. We have agreed that I am going to tell her when I have to. She will be crying, but I'm not going through with it. I don't feel like I can continue to be with her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Update: My wife (27f) left me 6 months ago, and I'm (28m)now contemplating emotionally leaving her.
POST: I'm going to talk to her today in like an hr. She called me this morning and made sure I was planning on talking later. She then said "I don't want to lose you." I told her we would talk at 5:30.
I'm prepared to stick with my decision not to continue to wait for her. I'm pretty sure that nothing has changed for her. She wants to be single. And I'm not willing to keep going through this.
I'm not looking forward to hearing her tell me how much she loves me. and I know she will bring up the whole "if i'm going to be with a guy, it'll be you." That one has been said way to many times (by her.) I expect her to cry. That is going to be so hard. But I'm done.
TL;DR: | I'm close to breaking up with my wife. I'm not ready to be with another woman. But I'm willing to wait another year. | I have talked to my wife. We have agreed that I am going to tell her when I have to. She will be crying, but I'm not going through with it. I don't feel like I can continue to be with her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Update: My wife (27f) left me 6 months ago, and I'm (28m)now contemplating emotionally leaving her.
POST: I'm going to talk to her today in like an hr. She called me this morning and made sure I was planning on talking later. She then said "I don't want to lose you." I told her we would talk at 5:30.
I'm prepared to stick with my decision not to continue to wait for her. I'm pretty sure that nothing has changed for her. She wants to be single. And I'm not willing to keep going through this.
I'm not looking forward to hearing her tell me how much she loves me. and I know she will bring up the whole "if i'm going to be with a guy, it'll be you." That one has been said way to many times (by her.) I expect her to cry. That is going to be so hard. But I'm done.
TL;DR: | My ex is playing games, and I'm about to tell her that I'm not waiting around anymore. | I'm going to talk to my wife about my decision to leave her. She wants to be single. I'm not. I'm done and am looking forward to hearing her tell me how much she loves me. I'm not looking forward to hearing her say how much she loves me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Update: My wife (27f) left me 6 months ago, and I'm (28m)now contemplating emotionally leaving her.
POST: I'm going to talk to her today in like an hr. She called me this morning and made sure I was planning on talking later. She then said "I don't want to lose you." I told her we would talk at 5:30.
I'm prepared to stick with my decision not to continue to wait for her. I'm pretty sure that nothing has changed for her. She wants to be single. And I'm not willing to keep going through this.
I'm not looking forward to hearing her tell me how much she loves me. and I know she will bring up the whole "if i'm going to be with a guy, it'll be you." That one has been said way to many times (by her.) I expect her to cry. That is going to be so hard. But I'm done.
TL;DR: | I'm going to talk to my wife about my decision to leave her. She wants to be single. I'm not. I'm done and am looking forward to hearing her tell me how much she loves me. I'm not looking forward to hearing her say how much she loves me. | I'm close to breaking up with my wife. I'm not ready to be with another woman. But I'm willing to wait another year. |
SUBREDDIT: r/needadvice
TITLE: Thumos
POST: I'm an apprentice right now in my company and my boss leaves for another job at the end of the month so my bosses boss has asked me to take over the guy who's leavings job.
It's great and all and i could see myself doing it but the plan has always been to do greater things in my life, so engineer was the obvious choice.
The only thing that is stopping me from ending it right now is doing something great, leaving an imprint on the world.
i know this will require A LOT of work because the only way i can add something new to the world is by learning everything the people in my field knew before me, and only then will i have a chance.
TL;DR: | Whats the best way to learn that one thing that will make an impact on the world?
THANKS! | I want to learn everything about the world, not just what works and what didn't.
edit: spelling |
SUBREDDIT: r/needadvice
TITLE: Thumos
POST: I'm an apprentice right now in my company and my boss leaves for another job at the end of the month so my bosses boss has asked me to take over the guy who's leavings job.
It's great and all and i could see myself doing it but the plan has always been to do greater things in my life, so engineer was the obvious choice.
The only thing that is stopping me from ending it right now is doing something great, leaving an imprint on the world.
i know this will require A LOT of work because the only way i can add something new to the world is by learning everything the people in my field knew before me, and only then will i have a chance.
TL;DR: | Whats the best way to learn that one thing that will make an impact on the world?
THANKS! | How can i learn up on this and leave a mark, maybe just create something new?
THANKS! |
SUBREDDIT: r/needadvice
TITLE: Thumos
POST: I'm an apprentice right now in my company and my boss leaves for another job at the end of the month so my bosses boss has asked me to take over the guy who's leavings job.
It's great and all and i could see myself doing it but the plan has always been to do greater things in my life, so engineer was the obvious choice.
The only thing that is stopping me from ending it right now is doing something great, leaving an imprint on the world.
i know this will require A LOT of work because the only way i can add something new to the world is by learning everything the people in my field knew before me, and only then will i have a chance.
TL;DR: | Do i stay in my company and hope i can do something great or do i go for engineer and hope its the right choice? | I want to learn everything about the world, not just what works and what didn't.
edit: spelling |
SUBREDDIT: r/needadvice
TITLE: Thumos
POST: I'm an apprentice right now in my company and my boss leaves for another job at the end of the month so my bosses boss has asked me to take over the guy who's leavings job.
It's great and all and i could see myself doing it but the plan has always been to do greater things in my life, so engineer was the obvious choice.
The only thing that is stopping me from ending it right now is doing something great, leaving an imprint on the world.
i know this will require A LOT of work because the only way i can add something new to the world is by learning everything the people in my field knew before me, and only then will i have a chance.
TL;DR: | Do i stay in my company and hope i can do something great or do i go for engineer and hope its the right choice? | How can i learn up on this and leave a mark, maybe just create something new?
THANKS! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: (20/M) It's been almost a year and I thought it was over
POST: Not sure where else to turn for advice
But my me and my long term girlfriend of ~3 years broke up at the end of last year. I was in a really bad place and pretty much just threw it all away and didn't give a shit. I was over her and didn't give a shit about anything in my life really.
Since she has gotten a boyfriend and idk if they're still together or not, I'm not one to look further in to it. I've "heard" a couple months ago she missed me, but kind of ignored it, as I still wasn't in the best place.
But recently I texted her and apologized for me pretty much just ignoring her for the last part of our relationship, and how I didn't want her to think she did something wrong, and didn't get much of a response.
Then yesterday I get a huge text from her apologizing for how she thinks she's stepping into my social life because I don't get invited to go to places because we still have the same general group of friends, and she gets picked over me(they think we can't be around together) and how she doesn't want it to be like that and how she genuinely cares for me as a person, and is happy for me that I'm not in a shitty place in my life anymore.
Feelings I thought were gone long ago are being brought back up, and I miss her terribly. I'm probably out of place with this feeling, and I don't think I should tell her I have these feelings but I really want to, and I'm thinking about her constantly. Please help me, I don't know what to do and I don't want to step on any toes.
TL;DR: | Girlfriend broke up with me a year ago, I'm in a really bad place emotionally. I miss her a lot and don't know what to do. | been broken up for almost a year, old feelings are being brought back up, and I don't know what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: (20/M) It's been almost a year and I thought it was over
POST: Not sure where else to turn for advice
But my me and my long term girlfriend of ~3 years broke up at the end of last year. I was in a really bad place and pretty much just threw it all away and didn't give a shit. I was over her and didn't give a shit about anything in my life really.
Since she has gotten a boyfriend and idk if they're still together or not, I'm not one to look further in to it. I've "heard" a couple months ago she missed me, but kind of ignored it, as I still wasn't in the best place.
But recently I texted her and apologized for me pretty much just ignoring her for the last part of our relationship, and how I didn't want her to think she did something wrong, and didn't get much of a response.
Then yesterday I get a huge text from her apologizing for how she thinks she's stepping into my social life because I don't get invited to go to places because we still have the same general group of friends, and she gets picked over me(they think we can't be around together) and how she doesn't want it to be like that and how she genuinely cares for me as a person, and is happy for me that I'm not in a shitty place in my life anymore.
Feelings I thought were gone long ago are being brought back up, and I miss her terribly. I'm probably out of place with this feeling, and I don't think I should tell her I have these feelings but I really want to, and I'm thinking about her constantly. Please help me, I don't know what to do and I don't want to step on any toes.
TL;DR: | been broken up for almost a year, old feelings are being brought back up, and I don't know what to do. | Ex girlfriend apologized to me for how I treated her, and I miss her, and I don't know what to do. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: (20/M) It's been almost a year and I thought it was over
POST: Not sure where else to turn for advice
But my me and my long term girlfriend of ~3 years broke up at the end of last year. I was in a really bad place and pretty much just threw it all away and didn't give a shit. I was over her and didn't give a shit about anything in my life really.
Since she has gotten a boyfriend and idk if they're still together or not, I'm not one to look further in to it. I've "heard" a couple months ago she missed me, but kind of ignored it, as I still wasn't in the best place.
But recently I texted her and apologized for me pretty much just ignoring her for the last part of our relationship, and how I didn't want her to think she did something wrong, and didn't get much of a response.
Then yesterday I get a huge text from her apologizing for how she thinks she's stepping into my social life because I don't get invited to go to places because we still have the same general group of friends, and she gets picked over me(they think we can't be around together) and how she doesn't want it to be like that and how she genuinely cares for me as a person, and is happy for me that I'm not in a shitty place in my life anymore.
Feelings I thought were gone long ago are being brought back up, and I miss her terribly. I'm probably out of place with this feeling, and I don't think I should tell her I have these feelings but I really want to, and I'm thinking about her constantly. Please help me, I don't know what to do and I don't want to step on any toes.
TL;DR: | Ex girlfriend apologized to me for how I treated her, and I miss her, and I don't know what to do. | I broke up with my girlfriend of almost a year and I'm not sure if she still cares for me or not, and I miss her.
EDIT: I'm not even sure if she still cares or not, I'm just trying to find out if she still cares or not. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationship_advice
TITLE: (20/M) It's been almost a year and I thought it was over
POST: Not sure where else to turn for advice
But my me and my long term girlfriend of ~3 years broke up at the end of last year. I was in a really bad place and pretty much just threw it all away and didn't give a shit. I was over her and didn't give a shit about anything in my life really.
Since she has gotten a boyfriend and idk if they're still together or not, I'm not one to look further in to it. I've "heard" a couple months ago she missed me, but kind of ignored it, as I still wasn't in the best place.
But recently I texted her and apologized for me pretty much just ignoring her for the last part of our relationship, and how I didn't want her to think she did something wrong, and didn't get much of a response.
Then yesterday I get a huge text from her apologizing for how she thinks she's stepping into my social life because I don't get invited to go to places because we still have the same general group of friends, and she gets picked over me(they think we can't be around together) and how she doesn't want it to be like that and how she genuinely cares for me as a person, and is happy for me that I'm not in a shitty place in my life anymore.
Feelings I thought were gone long ago are being brought back up, and I miss her terribly. I'm probably out of place with this feeling, and I don't think I should tell her I have these feelings but I really want to, and I'm thinking about her constantly. Please help me, I don't know what to do and I don't want to step on any toes.
TL;DR: | Girlfriend broke up with me a year ago, I'm in a really bad place emotionally. I miss her a lot and don't know what to do. | I broke up with my girlfriend of almost a year and I'm not sure if she still cares for me or not, and I miss her.
EDIT: I'm not even sure if she still cares or not, I'm just trying to find out if she still cares or not. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [18 M] recently became good friends with someone [18 F] and I have developed a crush on her. I am unsure how to approach it.
POST: First off, I'm quite inexperienced in a this field seeing as I am a virgin and have never been in a relationship before. Therefore I am quite unsure how approach the situation, and would appreciate some advice.
We've been friends for about a month and have been texting every day and also met up a good few times for lunch and just hanging out.
However, at around the time I met her she also become friendly with another dude, who I am also friends with. Me and him could be seen to be polar opposites. He is quite confident, outgoing and has had numerous sexual partners. I, on the other hand, am more comfortable in a small group of people and prefer to listen to people rather than talk, and because of this, she claims to be very comfortable around me.
This other dude, being more confident than myself, has already expressed interest in her and has made his move (I believe they have made out) and asked them to be exclusive. She hasn't mentioned whether or not they are exclusive to me yet, so I am still in the dark about it.
In the past month she has opened up to me and I feel a real emotional connection with her and I think we would go well together. She has also given me indication that she agrees with this, claiming on more than one occasion that I, "should have made a move before him" and that she thinks it is fate that we met.
However, she has also mentioned the fact that she doesn't want to "lose the friendship" and I would agree with her. However, seeing as I have been by myself for so long, I would be willing to risk it, and possibly be start a "not very serious" relationship aka a relationship where we are exclusive, but we are still able to have a good level of freedom.
So, the question I pose is, do you think I should tell her about my crush on her, or maybe distance myself from her until my feelings go away (something I would really not rather do, but I have mulled on it.)
TL;DR: | I [18 M] have a crush on someone [18 F] and am unsure how to approach it. | I've developed a crush on a girl whom I have never been in a relationship with. She's friendly with someone else, and claims to be interested in me as well. In the past month she has opened up to me, but I have yet to hear any indication of them being exclusive. Should I tell her about my crush? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [18 M] recently became good friends with someone [18 F] and I have developed a crush on her. I am unsure how to approach it.
POST: First off, I'm quite inexperienced in a this field seeing as I am a virgin and have never been in a relationship before. Therefore I am quite unsure how approach the situation, and would appreciate some advice.
We've been friends for about a month and have been texting every day and also met up a good few times for lunch and just hanging out.
However, at around the time I met her she also become friendly with another dude, who I am also friends with. Me and him could be seen to be polar opposites. He is quite confident, outgoing and has had numerous sexual partners. I, on the other hand, am more comfortable in a small group of people and prefer to listen to people rather than talk, and because of this, she claims to be very comfortable around me.
This other dude, being more confident than myself, has already expressed interest in her and has made his move (I believe they have made out) and asked them to be exclusive. She hasn't mentioned whether or not they are exclusive to me yet, so I am still in the dark about it.
In the past month she has opened up to me and I feel a real emotional connection with her and I think we would go well together. She has also given me indication that she agrees with this, claiming on more than one occasion that I, "should have made a move before him" and that she thinks it is fate that we met.
However, she has also mentioned the fact that she doesn't want to "lose the friendship" and I would agree with her. However, seeing as I have been by myself for so long, I would be willing to risk it, and possibly be start a "not very serious" relationship aka a relationship where we are exclusive, but we are still able to have a good level of freedom.
So, the question I pose is, do you think I should tell her about my crush on her, or maybe distance myself from her until my feelings go away (something I would really not rather do, but I have mulled on it.)
TL;DR: | Have a crush on a girl who is possibly currently dating another guy, but still has expressed interest in me. | I [18 M] have a crush on someone [18 F] and am unsure how to approach it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [18 M] recently became good friends with someone [18 F] and I have developed a crush on her. I am unsure how to approach it.
POST: First off, I'm quite inexperienced in a this field seeing as I am a virgin and have never been in a relationship before. Therefore I am quite unsure how approach the situation, and would appreciate some advice.
We've been friends for about a month and have been texting every day and also met up a good few times for lunch and just hanging out.
However, at around the time I met her she also become friendly with another dude, who I am also friends with. Me and him could be seen to be polar opposites. He is quite confident, outgoing and has had numerous sexual partners. I, on the other hand, am more comfortable in a small group of people and prefer to listen to people rather than talk, and because of this, she claims to be very comfortable around me.
This other dude, being more confident than myself, has already expressed interest in her and has made his move (I believe they have made out) and asked them to be exclusive. She hasn't mentioned whether or not they are exclusive to me yet, so I am still in the dark about it.
In the past month she has opened up to me and I feel a real emotional connection with her and I think we would go well together. She has also given me indication that she agrees with this, claiming on more than one occasion that I, "should have made a move before him" and that she thinks it is fate that we met.
However, she has also mentioned the fact that she doesn't want to "lose the friendship" and I would agree with her. However, seeing as I have been by myself for so long, I would be willing to risk it, and possibly be start a "not very serious" relationship aka a relationship where we are exclusive, but we are still able to have a good level of freedom.
So, the question I pose is, do you think I should tell her about my crush on her, or maybe distance myself from her until my feelings go away (something I would really not rather do, but I have mulled on it.)
TL;DR: | Have a crush on a girl who is possibly currently dating another guy, but still has expressed interest in me. | I have a crush on someone I've been friends with for a month, unsure how to approach it. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I [18 M] recently became good friends with someone [18 F] and I have developed a crush on her. I am unsure how to approach it.
POST: First off, I'm quite inexperienced in a this field seeing as I am a virgin and have never been in a relationship before. Therefore I am quite unsure how approach the situation, and would appreciate some advice.
We've been friends for about a month and have been texting every day and also met up a good few times for lunch and just hanging out.
However, at around the time I met her she also become friendly with another dude, who I am also friends with. Me and him could be seen to be polar opposites. He is quite confident, outgoing and has had numerous sexual partners. I, on the other hand, am more comfortable in a small group of people and prefer to listen to people rather than talk, and because of this, she claims to be very comfortable around me.
This other dude, being more confident than myself, has already expressed interest in her and has made his move (I believe they have made out) and asked them to be exclusive. She hasn't mentioned whether or not they are exclusive to me yet, so I am still in the dark about it.
In the past month she has opened up to me and I feel a real emotional connection with her and I think we would go well together. She has also given me indication that she agrees with this, claiming on more than one occasion that I, "should have made a move before him" and that she thinks it is fate that we met.
However, she has also mentioned the fact that she doesn't want to "lose the friendship" and I would agree with her. However, seeing as I have been by myself for so long, I would be willing to risk it, and possibly be start a "not very serious" relationship aka a relationship where we are exclusive, but we are still able to have a good level of freedom.
So, the question I pose is, do you think I should tell her about my crush on her, or maybe distance myself from her until my feelings go away (something I would really not rather do, but I have mulled on it.)
TL;DR: | I have a crush on someone I've been friends with for a month, unsure how to approach it. | I've developed a crush on a girl whom I have never been in a relationship with. She's friendly with someone else, and claims to be interested in me as well. In the past month she has opened up to me, but I have yet to hear any indication of them being exclusive. Should I tell her about my crush? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my GF [23 F] of 6 months. I want to end things with her but it's Christmas; how can I do this without hurting her?
POST: We've been seeing each other for just over 6 months now. We don't live together and there are no complications (health etc) or strings (financial etc).
I want to break up with her and were it any other time of the year I would avoid drawing it out, however with Christmas this coming week we are going to be around each others families quite a bit. I don't think it would be appropriate to break up with her now and ruin the holiday for her, but on the other hand I don't want her to feel that I mislead her if I break up with her straight afterwards.
The only problem with not doing it after Christmas is that we are supposed to be spending a week away on holiday together halfway through January.
I do care about her; and no one deserves to be hurt unnecessarily, so really looking for some help or advice on what I should do in this situation.
Thanks in advance =)
TL;DR: | Girlfriend of 6 months with no problems - Christmas, want to break up with her but don't want her to feel slighted. | Me and my GF [23 F] broke up and I want to end it, what do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my GF [23 F] of 6 months. I want to end things with her but it's Christmas; how can I do this without hurting her?
POST: We've been seeing each other for just over 6 months now. We don't live together and there are no complications (health etc) or strings (financial etc).
I want to break up with her and were it any other time of the year I would avoid drawing it out, however with Christmas this coming week we are going to be around each others families quite a bit. I don't think it would be appropriate to break up with her now and ruin the holiday for her, but on the other hand I don't want her to feel that I mislead her if I break up with her straight afterwards.
The only problem with not doing it after Christmas is that we are supposed to be spending a week away on holiday together halfway through January.
I do care about her; and no one deserves to be hurt unnecessarily, so really looking for some help or advice on what I should do in this situation.
Thanks in advance =)
TL;DR: | Me [21 M] with my GF [23 F] of 6 months. We don't live together and there are no complications (health etc) or strings (financial etc)
Need advice on how to break up with her for Christmas | Want to break up with GF. It's Christmas which is a terrible time to do it; but we have holiday plans in a month. Help! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my GF [23 F] of 6 months. I want to end things with her but it's Christmas; how can I do this without hurting her?
POST: We've been seeing each other for just over 6 months now. We don't live together and there are no complications (health etc) or strings (financial etc).
I want to break up with her and were it any other time of the year I would avoid drawing it out, however with Christmas this coming week we are going to be around each others families quite a bit. I don't think it would be appropriate to break up with her now and ruin the holiday for her, but on the other hand I don't want her to feel that I mislead her if I break up with her straight afterwards.
The only problem with not doing it after Christmas is that we are supposed to be spending a week away on holiday together halfway through January.
I do care about her; and no one deserves to be hurt unnecessarily, so really looking for some help or advice on what I should do in this situation.
Thanks in advance =)
TL;DR: | Want to break up with GF. It's Christmas which is a terrible time to do it; but we have holiday plans in a month. Help! | Girlfriend of 6 months with no problems - Christmas, want to break up with her but don't want her to feel slighted. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Me [21 M] with my GF [23 F] of 6 months. I want to end things with her but it's Christmas; how can I do this without hurting her?
POST: We've been seeing each other for just over 6 months now. We don't live together and there are no complications (health etc) or strings (financial etc).
I want to break up with her and were it any other time of the year I would avoid drawing it out, however with Christmas this coming week we are going to be around each others families quite a bit. I don't think it would be appropriate to break up with her now and ruin the holiday for her, but on the other hand I don't want her to feel that I mislead her if I break up with her straight afterwards.
The only problem with not doing it after Christmas is that we are supposed to be spending a week away on holiday together halfway through January.
I do care about her; and no one deserves to be hurt unnecessarily, so really looking for some help or advice on what I should do in this situation.
Thanks in advance =)
TL;DR: | Me [21 M] with my GF [23 F] of 6 months. We don't live together and there are no complications (health etc) or strings (financial etc)
Need advice on how to break up with her for Christmas | Me and my GF [23 F] broke up and I want to end it, what do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [20sM] Thinks I bought her pre break up are arriving soon.
POST: Hey Reddit, so I bought some items on the internet from America for my ex girlfriend who at the time when we was together; I knew she would LOVE these presents. I got her a pretty damn epic plushie - anime. A Pusheen Necklace (facebook grey animated cat emote) and the third object I won't say.
Either way, I tracked them today and they will be here between Monday to Wednesday next week.
It's been over 2 weeks since she decided to pull the plug, and the fool I am tried to talk to her about it instead of giving her the much needed space, so I've cut all contact now since Sunday. I said what I wanted to say, but it escalated which I'm feeling really guilty over.
I know that RIGHT NOW she probably hates my guts for reasons I can't really say because I don't know myself, I'm going to think its because I was clingy/intoxicating over the first 2 weeks of the break up because during the relationship she even admitted to me that she felt as if I was doing right by her, I was a very supportive and caring partner. I always put her before myself in every situation.
I'm very relaxed now, I've taken care of my life by starting a new hobbie ; jogging. I've been doing it daily, and since we've broken up I've lost over a stone in weight (6.7 KG) due to the continuous exercise and very healthy eating.
Either way, I just wanted to know what I Should do with these items.
I know she would love them, but I'm not sure if I should give them to her any more because it may seem as if I'm trying to buy my way back into her life but truthfully I've been waiting for these things for nearly a month to arrive, with full recites as proof.
I hope you can help me out with this. I spent around 120$ on all 3 gifts, so it isn't exactly cheap when you don't have money because you was saving for a big "plan".
Thanks again reddit. :)
If you have any questions, please ask.
TL;DR: | bought and shipped my ex gf an anime plushie with a pusheen necklace and a third item and I'm worried she'll hate me for it. Is there anyway I can make it more than just a simple gift? | Bought items from America for my ex girlfriend to stop her from breaking up with me, she didn't want to hear about it, I was clingy and too much of a 'protagonist' so I cut all contact and now I'm hungry for them. What should I do NOW? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [20sM] Thinks I bought her pre break up are arriving soon.
POST: Hey Reddit, so I bought some items on the internet from America for my ex girlfriend who at the time when we was together; I knew she would LOVE these presents. I got her a pretty damn epic plushie - anime. A Pusheen Necklace (facebook grey animated cat emote) and the third object I won't say.
Either way, I tracked them today and they will be here between Monday to Wednesday next week.
It's been over 2 weeks since she decided to pull the plug, and the fool I am tried to talk to her about it instead of giving her the much needed space, so I've cut all contact now since Sunday. I said what I wanted to say, but it escalated which I'm feeling really guilty over.
I know that RIGHT NOW she probably hates my guts for reasons I can't really say because I don't know myself, I'm going to think its because I was clingy/intoxicating over the first 2 weeks of the break up because during the relationship she even admitted to me that she felt as if I was doing right by her, I was a very supportive and caring partner. I always put her before myself in every situation.
I'm very relaxed now, I've taken care of my life by starting a new hobbie ; jogging. I've been doing it daily, and since we've broken up I've lost over a stone in weight (6.7 KG) due to the continuous exercise and very healthy eating.
Either way, I just wanted to know what I Should do with these items.
I know she would love them, but I'm not sure if I should give them to her any more because it may seem as if I'm trying to buy my way back into her life but truthfully I've been waiting for these things for nearly a month to arrive, with full recites as proof.
I hope you can help me out with this. I spent around 120$ on all 3 gifts, so it isn't exactly cheap when you don't have money because you was saving for a big "plan".
Thanks again reddit. :)
If you have any questions, please ask.
TL;DR: | I bought my ex a plushie, a necklace and a pusheen necklace. I think I might have messed up if I've not given her the space she deserves. | bought and shipped my ex gf an anime plushie with a pusheen necklace and a third item and I'm worried she'll hate me for it. Is there anyway I can make it more than just a simple gift? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [20sM] Thinks I bought her pre break up are arriving soon.
POST: Hey Reddit, so I bought some items on the internet from America for my ex girlfriend who at the time when we was together; I knew she would LOVE these presents. I got her a pretty damn epic plushie - anime. A Pusheen Necklace (facebook grey animated cat emote) and the third object I won't say.
Either way, I tracked them today and they will be here between Monday to Wednesday next week.
It's been over 2 weeks since she decided to pull the plug, and the fool I am tried to talk to her about it instead of giving her the much needed space, so I've cut all contact now since Sunday. I said what I wanted to say, but it escalated which I'm feeling really guilty over.
I know that RIGHT NOW she probably hates my guts for reasons I can't really say because I don't know myself, I'm going to think its because I was clingy/intoxicating over the first 2 weeks of the break up because during the relationship she even admitted to me that she felt as if I was doing right by her, I was a very supportive and caring partner. I always put her before myself in every situation.
I'm very relaxed now, I've taken care of my life by starting a new hobbie ; jogging. I've been doing it daily, and since we've broken up I've lost over a stone in weight (6.7 KG) due to the continuous exercise and very healthy eating.
Either way, I just wanted to know what I Should do with these items.
I know she would love them, but I'm not sure if I should give them to her any more because it may seem as if I'm trying to buy my way back into her life but truthfully I've been waiting for these things for nearly a month to arrive, with full recites as proof.
I hope you can help me out with this. I spent around 120$ on all 3 gifts, so it isn't exactly cheap when you don't have money because you was saving for a big "plan".
Thanks again reddit. :)
If you have any questions, please ask.
TL;DR: | What should I do with gifts I bought pre-break up which are arriving next week after a month long wait? | I bought my ex a plushie, a necklace and a pusheen necklace. I think I might have messed up if I've not given her the space she deserves. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [20sM] Thinks I bought her pre break up are arriving soon.
POST: Hey Reddit, so I bought some items on the internet from America for my ex girlfriend who at the time when we was together; I knew she would LOVE these presents. I got her a pretty damn epic plushie - anime. A Pusheen Necklace (facebook grey animated cat emote) and the third object I won't say.
Either way, I tracked them today and they will be here between Monday to Wednesday next week.
It's been over 2 weeks since she decided to pull the plug, and the fool I am tried to talk to her about it instead of giving her the much needed space, so I've cut all contact now since Sunday. I said what I wanted to say, but it escalated which I'm feeling really guilty over.
I know that RIGHT NOW she probably hates my guts for reasons I can't really say because I don't know myself, I'm going to think its because I was clingy/intoxicating over the first 2 weeks of the break up because during the relationship she even admitted to me that she felt as if I was doing right by her, I was a very supportive and caring partner. I always put her before myself in every situation.
I'm very relaxed now, I've taken care of my life by starting a new hobbie ; jogging. I've been doing it daily, and since we've broken up I've lost over a stone in weight (6.7 KG) due to the continuous exercise and very healthy eating.
Either way, I just wanted to know what I Should do with these items.
I know she would love them, but I'm not sure if I should give them to her any more because it may seem as if I'm trying to buy my way back into her life but truthfully I've been waiting for these things for nearly a month to arrive, with full recites as proof.
I hope you can help me out with this. I spent around 120$ on all 3 gifts, so it isn't exactly cheap when you don't have money because you was saving for a big "plan".
Thanks again reddit. :)
If you have any questions, please ask.
TL;DR: | What should I do with gifts I bought pre-break up which are arriving next week after a month long wait? | Bought items from America for my ex girlfriend to stop her from breaking up with me, she didn't want to hear about it, I was clingy and too much of a 'protagonist' so I cut all contact and now I'm hungry for them. What should I do NOW? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [25/M] Invited my coworker [35/F] to hang out, agrees, then avoids me the next day.
POST: I am a 25 year old male who is friends with a 35 year old female at my workplace. I've known her for a year, and I had no attraction to her when we first met. After getting to know her, I found that we share many many similar interests and tastes, and I've developed an attraction for her, which snowballed to a pretty big crush. I'm pretty sure she isn't currently interested, but I decided to see if I could change her mind, like she unknowingly did mine.
Yesterday I felt particularly confident and I casually invited her out on the weekend, she looked down for a few seconds while thinking, asked me when and where, then agreed. It is important to note that she mentioned she had morning plans that "should end" by the agreed time. I was so ecstatic that she agreed that I failed to read into the key word "should".
So today, it seemed like she was intentionally trying to avoid me. We exchanged hellos twice today, but she would quickly walk away. She also has a ritual where she comes down to where I am after work to have a smoke, where we usually have long chats, and today she didn't. Seems weird because we continued an enjoyable conversation immediately after I had invited her out.
I just realized I actually worked this out as I was typing it, and I'm prepared for the flake. I just hope I didn't forever drive away the only person I genuinely enjoy conversing with at work. How bad is damage control in situations like this?
TL;DR: | worked out a mutual attraction to the coworker I've been working with for a year, now she's deliberately avoiding me. I'm not sure how to handle this situation. | accidentally invited my coworker to hang out, she declined, and I'm the only one who actually enjoys talking to her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [25/M] Invited my coworker [35/F] to hang out, agrees, then avoids me the next day.
POST: I am a 25 year old male who is friends with a 35 year old female at my workplace. I've known her for a year, and I had no attraction to her when we first met. After getting to know her, I found that we share many many similar interests and tastes, and I've developed an attraction for her, which snowballed to a pretty big crush. I'm pretty sure she isn't currently interested, but I decided to see if I could change her mind, like she unknowingly did mine.
Yesterday I felt particularly confident and I casually invited her out on the weekend, she looked down for a few seconds while thinking, asked me when and where, then agreed. It is important to note that she mentioned she had morning plans that "should end" by the agreed time. I was so ecstatic that she agreed that I failed to read into the key word "should".
So today, it seemed like she was intentionally trying to avoid me. We exchanged hellos twice today, but she would quickly walk away. She also has a ritual where she comes down to where I am after work to have a smoke, where we usually have long chats, and today she didn't. Seems weird because we continued an enjoyable conversation immediately after I had invited her out.
I just realized I actually worked this out as I was typing it, and I'm prepared for the flake. I just hope I didn't forever drive away the only person I genuinely enjoy conversing with at work. How bad is damage control in situations like this?
TL;DR: | Invited out co-worker who normally interacts with me a lot, gave a seemingly reluctant yes, avoids me the very next day, need damage control. | worked out a mutual attraction to the coworker I've been working with for a year, now she's deliberately avoiding me. I'm not sure how to handle this situation. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [25/M] Invited my coworker [35/F] to hang out, agrees, then avoids me the next day.
POST: I am a 25 year old male who is friends with a 35 year old female at my workplace. I've known her for a year, and I had no attraction to her when we first met. After getting to know her, I found that we share many many similar interests and tastes, and I've developed an attraction for her, which snowballed to a pretty big crush. I'm pretty sure she isn't currently interested, but I decided to see if I could change her mind, like she unknowingly did mine.
Yesterday I felt particularly confident and I casually invited her out on the weekend, she looked down for a few seconds while thinking, asked me when and where, then agreed. It is important to note that she mentioned she had morning plans that "should end" by the agreed time. I was so ecstatic that she agreed that I failed to read into the key word "should".
So today, it seemed like she was intentionally trying to avoid me. We exchanged hellos twice today, but she would quickly walk away. She also has a ritual where she comes down to where I am after work to have a smoke, where we usually have long chats, and today she didn't. Seems weird because we continued an enjoyable conversation immediately after I had invited her out.
I just realized I actually worked this out as I was typing it, and I'm prepared for the flake. I just hope I didn't forever drive away the only person I genuinely enjoy conversing with at work. How bad is damage control in situations like this?
TL;DR: | Invited out co-worker who normally interacts with me a lot, gave a seemingly reluctant yes, avoids me the very next day, need damage control. | I accidentally invited my coworker out to hang out and now she's avoiding me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: [25/M] Invited my coworker [35/F] to hang out, agrees, then avoids me the next day.
POST: I am a 25 year old male who is friends with a 35 year old female at my workplace. I've known her for a year, and I had no attraction to her when we first met. After getting to know her, I found that we share many many similar interests and tastes, and I've developed an attraction for her, which snowballed to a pretty big crush. I'm pretty sure she isn't currently interested, but I decided to see if I could change her mind, like she unknowingly did mine.
Yesterday I felt particularly confident and I casually invited her out on the weekend, she looked down for a few seconds while thinking, asked me when and where, then agreed. It is important to note that she mentioned she had morning plans that "should end" by the agreed time. I was so ecstatic that she agreed that I failed to read into the key word "should".
So today, it seemed like she was intentionally trying to avoid me. We exchanged hellos twice today, but she would quickly walk away. She also has a ritual where she comes down to where I am after work to have a smoke, where we usually have long chats, and today she didn't. Seems weird because we continued an enjoyable conversation immediately after I had invited her out.
I just realized I actually worked this out as I was typing it, and I'm prepared for the flake. I just hope I didn't forever drive away the only person I genuinely enjoy conversing with at work. How bad is damage control in situations like this?
TL;DR: | I accidentally invited my coworker out to hang out and now she's avoiding me. | accidentally invited my coworker to hang out, she declined, and I'm the only one who actually enjoys talking to her. |
SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: Anyone want to offer me up a bit of advice?
POST: I (19m) have been cheated on in two of the three relationships I've ever had. The last girl I was dating told me a few months ago that she had been cheating on me, and I didn't know how to react at first. We tried to work our relationship out. She seemed ashamed of it, and acted like she still wanted to be together. I stupidly bought into it, and we worked things out for about another month. We broke up, and the next day, went out and had a fling with the same guy she cheated on me with, and shortly after is now seeing another guy. I know it's all stupid, and I really shouldn't care, but I've been really down lately. My relationship with my parents haven't been that great since middle school, I'm in my first year of college, facing academic probation because of my GPA, and my friends only really seem to talk to me when they have some sort of problem with their life. Throw the whole cheating situation in, and... I just don't know what to do. It makes me wonder if something is wrong with me? I don't know.
TL;DR: | I've been cheated on multiple times in the past and don't know what to do about it. | Abused three women, and have no idea if I'm being crazy. |
SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: Anyone want to offer me up a bit of advice?
POST: I (19m) have been cheated on in two of the three relationships I've ever had. The last girl I was dating told me a few months ago that she had been cheating on me, and I didn't know how to react at first. We tried to work our relationship out. She seemed ashamed of it, and acted like she still wanted to be together. I stupidly bought into it, and we worked things out for about another month. We broke up, and the next day, went out and had a fling with the same guy she cheated on me with, and shortly after is now seeing another guy. I know it's all stupid, and I really shouldn't care, but I've been really down lately. My relationship with my parents haven't been that great since middle school, I'm in my first year of college, facing academic probation because of my GPA, and my friends only really seem to talk to me when they have some sort of problem with their life. Throw the whole cheating situation in, and... I just don't know what to do. It makes me wonder if something is wrong with me? I don't know.
TL;DR: | have been cheated on twice, situation added to stress, feeling really down, could use advice, or even just a good smile. | Abused three women, and have no idea if I'm being crazy. |
SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: Anyone want to offer me up a bit of advice?
POST: I (19m) have been cheated on in two of the three relationships I've ever had. The last girl I was dating told me a few months ago that she had been cheating on me, and I didn't know how to react at first. We tried to work our relationship out. She seemed ashamed of it, and acted like she still wanted to be together. I stupidly bought into it, and we worked things out for about another month. We broke up, and the next day, went out and had a fling with the same guy she cheated on me with, and shortly after is now seeing another guy. I know it's all stupid, and I really shouldn't care, but I've been really down lately. My relationship with my parents haven't been that great since middle school, I'm in my first year of college, facing academic probation because of my GPA, and my friends only really seem to talk to me when they have some sort of problem with their life. Throw the whole cheating situation in, and... I just don't know what to do. It makes me wonder if something is wrong with me? I don't know.
TL;DR: | I've been cheated on multiple times in the past and don't know what to do about it. | I've been cheated on by multiple people for years, and I don't know what to do |
SUBREDDIT: r/BreakUps
TITLE: Anyone want to offer me up a bit of advice?
POST: I (19m) have been cheated on in two of the three relationships I've ever had. The last girl I was dating told me a few months ago that she had been cheating on me, and I didn't know how to react at first. We tried to work our relationship out. She seemed ashamed of it, and acted like she still wanted to be together. I stupidly bought into it, and we worked things out for about another month. We broke up, and the next day, went out and had a fling with the same guy she cheated on me with, and shortly after is now seeing another guy. I know it's all stupid, and I really shouldn't care, but I've been really down lately. My relationship with my parents haven't been that great since middle school, I'm in my first year of college, facing academic probation because of my GPA, and my friends only really seem to talk to me when they have some sort of problem with their life. Throw the whole cheating situation in, and... I just don't know what to do. It makes me wonder if something is wrong with me? I don't know.
TL;DR: | have been cheated on twice, situation added to stress, feeling really down, could use advice, or even just a good smile. | I've been cheated on by multiple people for years, and I don't know what to do |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Boyfriend and I moving in, talking about marriage alot
POST: We've been together for 2 years, I am moving in with him come January. We are in our early 20s, and we both have mutual feelings for one another. We've been talking about marriage for quite some time. Before we decided to move in together, we talked about it for a good year before we made it a reality.
I've discussed to him I did not want to wait 5/6/7 years to marry him, and I would like to marry him sometime soon. My mom thinks he MIGHT propose next year, and we have our wedding when I graduate with my Bach. in another 2 years. Do you think she is right? I really feel like it might happen next year, perhaps at the end of the year...
TL;DR: | I'm moving in with my boyfriend, I want to marry him, mom thinks he might propose next year. | Been together 2 years, moving in, boyfriend might propose within the next year, right? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Boyfriend and I moving in, talking about marriage alot
POST: We've been together for 2 years, I am moving in with him come January. We are in our early 20s, and we both have mutual feelings for one another. We've been talking about marriage for quite some time. Before we decided to move in together, we talked about it for a good year before we made it a reality.
I've discussed to him I did not want to wait 5/6/7 years to marry him, and I would like to marry him sometime soon. My mom thinks he MIGHT propose next year, and we have our wedding when I graduate with my Bach. in another 2 years. Do you think she is right? I really feel like it might happen next year, perhaps at the end of the year...
TL;DR: | Been together 2 years, moving in, boyfriend might propose within the next year, right? | We are both moving in soon, i want to marry my boyfriend, mom thinks he might propose in 2 years. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Boyfriend and I moving in, talking about marriage alot
POST: We've been together for 2 years, I am moving in with him come January. We are in our early 20s, and we both have mutual feelings for one another. We've been talking about marriage for quite some time. Before we decided to move in together, we talked about it for a good year before we made it a reality.
I've discussed to him I did not want to wait 5/6/7 years to marry him, and I would like to marry him sometime soon. My mom thinks he MIGHT propose next year, and we have our wedding when I graduate with my Bach. in another 2 years. Do you think she is right? I really feel like it might happen next year, perhaps at the end of the year...
TL;DR: | I may marry my boyfriend in 2 years, but my mom thinks he may propose next year. Do you think she is right? | I'm moving in with my boyfriend, I want to marry him, mom thinks he might propose next year. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: Boyfriend and I moving in, talking about marriage alot
POST: We've been together for 2 years, I am moving in with him come January. We are in our early 20s, and we both have mutual feelings for one another. We've been talking about marriage for quite some time. Before we decided to move in together, we talked about it for a good year before we made it a reality.
I've discussed to him I did not want to wait 5/6/7 years to marry him, and I would like to marry him sometime soon. My mom thinks he MIGHT propose next year, and we have our wedding when I graduate with my Bach. in another 2 years. Do you think she is right? I really feel like it might happen next year, perhaps at the end of the year...
TL;DR: | I may marry my boyfriend in 2 years, but my mom thinks he may propose next year. Do you think she is right? | We are both moving in soon, i want to marry my boyfriend, mom thinks he might propose in 2 years. |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I[16M] met a chick [16F] at a music festival, got along, got number and she told me to text her, did so and no reply. Wanting to follow her up.
POST: Hi all,
So this weekend I was at a music festival in my home city, quite big and lots of people there. Around the end I met this chick, call her Jay [16], I'm 16 as well.
So we hit it off alright initially, talked before the next act and I got her number, stupid me didn't test the number to see if it was right. I stayed with her the rest of the show and she was real cool. At the end we hug, she tells me to text her and we go our separate ways.
Now this is the first properly decent chick that I got the number of and I am pretty determined to try follow it. So yesterday sent her a text ("Hey, this is ****, from music festival last night :))"), which is a pretty weak start. It's been a day, didn't get a response so talking to my mates I sent the number another text saying along the lines of "sorry if this is the wrong number, this cute girl gave it to me at the festival". Still no response going on 8 hours after that one(>24hrs from first).
I want to follow her up so I want advice from you all on what to do if she doesn't text back(might be because of wrong number, not sure, even if she didn't want anything relationship like she could have responded). I know her first name and it's quite different so I can find her pretty easily and have since found the last name. I know I could send her a message on Facebook saying I sent a text but it may have been the wrong number but that may come off as weird(which I'm willing to do if it might get me there). You guys are probably better at this so I will take in all suggestions.
TL;DR: | met girl at music festival, she was keen, got number, she said to text her, no reply, want advice to follow up | chick gave me her number, didn't text back, what to do? |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I[16M] met a chick [16F] at a music festival, got along, got number and she told me to text her, did so and no reply. Wanting to follow her up.
POST: Hi all,
So this weekend I was at a music festival in my home city, quite big and lots of people there. Around the end I met this chick, call her Jay [16], I'm 16 as well.
So we hit it off alright initially, talked before the next act and I got her number, stupid me didn't test the number to see if it was right. I stayed with her the rest of the show and she was real cool. At the end we hug, she tells me to text her and we go our separate ways.
Now this is the first properly decent chick that I got the number of and I am pretty determined to try follow it. So yesterday sent her a text ("Hey, this is ****, from music festival last night :))"), which is a pretty weak start. It's been a day, didn't get a response so talking to my mates I sent the number another text saying along the lines of "sorry if this is the wrong number, this cute girl gave it to me at the festival". Still no response going on 8 hours after that one(>24hrs from first).
I want to follow her up so I want advice from you all on what to do if she doesn't text back(might be because of wrong number, not sure, even if she didn't want anything relationship like she could have responded). I know her first name and it's quite different so I can find her pretty easily and have since found the last name. I know I could send her a message on Facebook saying I sent a text but it may have been the wrong number but that may come off as weird(which I'm willing to do if it might get me there). You guys are probably better at this so I will take in all suggestions.
TL;DR: | Got a contact number. Not sure if she wants anything relationship like she could reply to me. | I [16F] have a chick in my life, she's a mofo. Need help on what to do with her if she doesn't respond.
Thanks guys! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I[16M] met a chick [16F] at a music festival, got along, got number and she told me to text her, did so and no reply. Wanting to follow her up.
POST: Hi all,
So this weekend I was at a music festival in my home city, quite big and lots of people there. Around the end I met this chick, call her Jay [16], I'm 16 as well.
So we hit it off alright initially, talked before the next act and I got her number, stupid me didn't test the number to see if it was right. I stayed with her the rest of the show and she was real cool. At the end we hug, she tells me to text her and we go our separate ways.
Now this is the first properly decent chick that I got the number of and I am pretty determined to try follow it. So yesterday sent her a text ("Hey, this is ****, from music festival last night :))"), which is a pretty weak start. It's been a day, didn't get a response so talking to my mates I sent the number another text saying along the lines of "sorry if this is the wrong number, this cute girl gave it to me at the festival". Still no response going on 8 hours after that one(>24hrs from first).
I want to follow her up so I want advice from you all on what to do if she doesn't text back(might be because of wrong number, not sure, even if she didn't want anything relationship like she could have responded). I know her first name and it's quite different so I can find her pretty easily and have since found the last name. I know I could send her a message on Facebook saying I sent a text but it may have been the wrong number but that may come off as weird(which I'm willing to do if it might get me there). You guys are probably better at this so I will take in all suggestions.
TL;DR: | chick gave me her number, didn't text back, what to do? | I [16F] have a chick in my life, she's a mofo. Need help on what to do with her if she doesn't respond.
Thanks guys! |
SUBREDDIT: r/relationships
TITLE: I[16M] met a chick [16F] at a music festival, got along, got number and she told me to text her, did so and no reply. Wanting to follow her up.
POST: Hi all,
So this weekend I was at a music festival in my home city, quite big and lots of people there. Around the end I met this chick, call her Jay [16], I'm 16 as well.
So we hit it off alright initially, talked before the next act and I got her number, stupid me didn't test the number to see if it was right. I stayed with her the rest of the show and she was real cool. At the end we hug, she tells me to text her and we go our separate ways.
Now this is the first properly decent chick that I got the number of and I am pretty determined to try follow it. So yesterday sent her a text ("Hey, this is ****, from music festival last night :))"), which is a pretty weak start. It's been a day, didn't get a response so talking to my mates I sent the number another text saying along the lines of "sorry if this is the wrong number, this cute girl gave it to me at the festival". Still no response going on 8 hours after that one(>24hrs from first).
I want to follow her up so I want advice from you all on what to do if she doesn't text back(might be because of wrong number, not sure, even if she didn't want anything relationship like she could have responded). I know her first name and it's quite different so I can find her pretty easily and have since found the last name. I know I could send her a message on Facebook saying I sent a text but it may have been the wrong number but that may come off as weird(which I'm willing to do if it might get me there). You guys are probably better at this so I will take in all suggestions.
TL;DR: | met girl at music festival, she was keen, got number, she said to text her, no reply, want advice to follow up | Got a contact number. Not sure if she wants anything relationship like she could reply to me. |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Insurance company's lawyer seeking reimbursement?
POST: Hi, I'm from California and my grandma has been in a sticky situation with her home.
A neighbor next door to my grandma was seeking reimbursement for repairs since there were holes in their house that came from my grandma's yard.
But it turns out the previous owner of my grandma's house caused those damages.
So after inspections and everything, the neighbor's insurance reimbursed him about $1600 to make the repairs.
Now's the sticky part: The insurance company's lawyers sent a letter to my grandma asking for reimbursement for what they paid the neighbor.
We've tried contacting our home insurance to deal with them but have been getting no calls back. We were thinking of writing a letter to OUR insurance company including the letter from the neighbor's lawyer and let them handle everything.
My grandma is just worried about losing the house. Thank you guys so much in advance.
TL;DR: | Neighbors insurer asked for reimbursement. Home owner caused damage. Home owner's insurance reimbursed neighbor. Home owner's insurance wants $1600 to fix the damages. | My grandma's neighbor has been asking for reimbursement for repairs that she did herself. We're worried about losing the house. |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Insurance company's lawyer seeking reimbursement?
POST: Hi, I'm from California and my grandma has been in a sticky situation with her home.
A neighbor next door to my grandma was seeking reimbursement for repairs since there were holes in their house that came from my grandma's yard.
But it turns out the previous owner of my grandma's house caused those damages.
So after inspections and everything, the neighbor's insurance reimbursed him about $1600 to make the repairs.
Now's the sticky part: The insurance company's lawyers sent a letter to my grandma asking for reimbursement for what they paid the neighbor.
We've tried contacting our home insurance to deal with them but have been getting no calls back. We were thinking of writing a letter to OUR insurance company including the letter from the neighbor's lawyer and let them handle everything.
My grandma is just worried about losing the house. Thank you guys so much in advance.
TL;DR: | Neighbor wants money from my grandma for repairs. Turns out it was the previous owner of my grandma's house that caused those damages. Neighbor's insurance paid the neighbor, and now wants my grandma to pay them back. Our insurance is basically MIA. | Insurance company wants to pay for repairs to house.
EDIT: Grammar and wording. |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Insurance company's lawyer seeking reimbursement?
POST: Hi, I'm from California and my grandma has been in a sticky situation with her home.
A neighbor next door to my grandma was seeking reimbursement for repairs since there were holes in their house that came from my grandma's yard.
But it turns out the previous owner of my grandma's house caused those damages.
So after inspections and everything, the neighbor's insurance reimbursed him about $1600 to make the repairs.
Now's the sticky part: The insurance company's lawyers sent a letter to my grandma asking for reimbursement for what they paid the neighbor.
We've tried contacting our home insurance to deal with them but have been getting no calls back. We were thinking of writing a letter to OUR insurance company including the letter from the neighbor's lawyer and let them handle everything.
My grandma is just worried about losing the house. Thank you guys so much in advance.
TL;DR: | Neighbor wants money from my grandma for repairs. Turns out it was the previous owner of my grandma's house that caused those damages. Neighbor's insurance paid the neighbor, and now wants my grandma to pay them back. Our insurance is basically MIA. | Neighbors insurer asked for reimbursement. Home owner caused damage. Home owner's insurance reimbursed neighbor. Home owner's insurance wants $1600 to fix the damages. |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Insurance company's lawyer seeking reimbursement?
POST: Hi, I'm from California and my grandma has been in a sticky situation with her home.
A neighbor next door to my grandma was seeking reimbursement for repairs since there were holes in their house that came from my grandma's yard.
But it turns out the previous owner of my grandma's house caused those damages.
So after inspections and everything, the neighbor's insurance reimbursed him about $1600 to make the repairs.
Now's the sticky part: The insurance company's lawyers sent a letter to my grandma asking for reimbursement for what they paid the neighbor.
We've tried contacting our home insurance to deal with them but have been getting no calls back. We were thinking of writing a letter to OUR insurance company including the letter from the neighbor's lawyer and let them handle everything.
My grandma is just worried about losing the house. Thank you guys so much in advance.
TL;DR: | My grandma's neighbor has been asking for reimbursement for repairs that she did herself. We're worried about losing the house. | Insurance company wants to pay for repairs to house.
EDIT: Grammar and wording. |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Insurance company's lawyer seeking reimbursement?
POST: Hi, I'm from California and my grandma has been in a sticky situation with her home.
A neighbor next door to my grandma was seeking reimbursement for repairs since there were holes in their house that came from my grandma's yard.
But it turns out the previous owner of my grandma's house caused those damages.
So after inspections and everything, the neighbor's insurance reimbursed him about $1600 to make the repairs.
Now's the sticky part: The insurance company's lawyers sent a letter to my grandma asking for reimbursement for what they paid the neighbor.
We've tried contacting our home insurance to deal with them but have been getting no calls back. We were thinking of writing a letter to OUR insurance company including the letter from the neighbor's lawyer and let them handle everything.
My grandma is just worried about losing the house. Thank you guys so much in advance.
TL;DR: | Neighbors insurer asked for reimbursement. Home owner caused damage. Home owner's insurance reimbursed neighbor. Home owner's insurance wants $1600 to fix the damages. | My grandma's neighbor has been asking for reimbursement for repairs that she did herself. We're worried about losing the house. |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Insurance company's lawyer seeking reimbursement?
POST: Hi, I'm from California and my grandma has been in a sticky situation with her home.
A neighbor next door to my grandma was seeking reimbursement for repairs since there were holes in their house that came from my grandma's yard.
But it turns out the previous owner of my grandma's house caused those damages.
So after inspections and everything, the neighbor's insurance reimbursed him about $1600 to make the repairs.
Now's the sticky part: The insurance company's lawyers sent a letter to my grandma asking for reimbursement for what they paid the neighbor.
We've tried contacting our home insurance to deal with them but have been getting no calls back. We were thinking of writing a letter to OUR insurance company including the letter from the neighbor's lawyer and let them handle everything.
My grandma is just worried about losing the house. Thank you guys so much in advance.
TL;DR: | Neighbor wants money from my grandma for repairs. Turns out it was the previous owner of my grandma's house that caused those damages. Neighbor's insurance paid the neighbor, and now wants my grandma to pay them back. Our insurance is basically MIA. | Insurance company wants to pay for repairs to house.
EDIT: Grammar and wording. |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Insurance company's lawyer seeking reimbursement?
POST: Hi, I'm from California and my grandma has been in a sticky situation with her home.
A neighbor next door to my grandma was seeking reimbursement for repairs since there were holes in their house that came from my grandma's yard.
But it turns out the previous owner of my grandma's house caused those damages.
So after inspections and everything, the neighbor's insurance reimbursed him about $1600 to make the repairs.
Now's the sticky part: The insurance company's lawyers sent a letter to my grandma asking for reimbursement for what they paid the neighbor.
We've tried contacting our home insurance to deal with them but have been getting no calls back. We were thinking of writing a letter to OUR insurance company including the letter from the neighbor's lawyer and let them handle everything.
My grandma is just worried about losing the house. Thank you guys so much in advance.
TL;DR: | Neighbor wants money from my grandma for repairs. Turns out it was the previous owner of my grandma's house that caused those damages. Neighbor's insurance paid the neighbor, and now wants my grandma to pay them back. Our insurance is basically MIA. | Neighbors insurer asked for reimbursement. Home owner caused damage. Home owner's insurance reimbursed neighbor. Home owner's insurance wants $1600 to fix the damages. |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Insurance company's lawyer seeking reimbursement?
POST: Hi, I'm from California and my grandma has been in a sticky situation with her home.
A neighbor next door to my grandma was seeking reimbursement for repairs since there were holes in their house that came from my grandma's yard.
But it turns out the previous owner of my grandma's house caused those damages.
So after inspections and everything, the neighbor's insurance reimbursed him about $1600 to make the repairs.
Now's the sticky part: The insurance company's lawyers sent a letter to my grandma asking for reimbursement for what they paid the neighbor.
We've tried contacting our home insurance to deal with them but have been getting no calls back. We were thinking of writing a letter to OUR insurance company including the letter from the neighbor's lawyer and let them handle everything.
My grandma is just worried about losing the house. Thank you guys so much in advance.
TL;DR: | My grandma's neighbor has been asking for reimbursement for repairs that she did herself. We're worried about losing the house. | Neighbors insurer asked for reimbursement. Home owner caused damage. Home owner's insurance reimbursed neighbor. Home owner's insurance wants $1600 to fix the damages. |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Insurance company's lawyer seeking reimbursement?
POST: Hi, I'm from California and my grandma has been in a sticky situation with her home.
A neighbor next door to my grandma was seeking reimbursement for repairs since there were holes in their house that came from my grandma's yard.
But it turns out the previous owner of my grandma's house caused those damages.
So after inspections and everything, the neighbor's insurance reimbursed him about $1600 to make the repairs.
Now's the sticky part: The insurance company's lawyers sent a letter to my grandma asking for reimbursement for what they paid the neighbor.
We've tried contacting our home insurance to deal with them but have been getting no calls back. We were thinking of writing a letter to OUR insurance company including the letter from the neighbor's lawyer and let them handle everything.
My grandma is just worried about losing the house. Thank you guys so much in advance.
TL;DR: | Neighbor wants money from my grandma for repairs. Turns out it was the previous owner of my grandma's house that caused those damages. Neighbor's insurance paid the neighbor, and now wants my grandma to pay them back. Our insurance is basically MIA. | Insurance company wants to pay for repairs to house.
EDIT: Grammar and wording. |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Insurance company's lawyer seeking reimbursement?
POST: Hi, I'm from California and my grandma has been in a sticky situation with her home.
A neighbor next door to my grandma was seeking reimbursement for repairs since there were holes in their house that came from my grandma's yard.
But it turns out the previous owner of my grandma's house caused those damages.
So after inspections and everything, the neighbor's insurance reimbursed him about $1600 to make the repairs.
Now's the sticky part: The insurance company's lawyers sent a letter to my grandma asking for reimbursement for what they paid the neighbor.
We've tried contacting our home insurance to deal with them but have been getting no calls back. We were thinking of writing a letter to OUR insurance company including the letter from the neighbor's lawyer and let them handle everything.
My grandma is just worried about losing the house. Thank you guys so much in advance.
TL;DR: | Neighbor wants money from my grandma for repairs. Turns out it was the previous owner of my grandma's house that caused those damages. Neighbor's insurance paid the neighbor, and now wants my grandma to pay them back. Our insurance is basically MIA. | Neighbors insurer asked for reimbursement. Home owner caused damage. Home owner's insurance reimbursed neighbor. Home owner's insurance wants $1600 to fix the damages. |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Insurance company's lawyer seeking reimbursement?
POST: Hi, I'm from California and my grandma has been in a sticky situation with her home.
A neighbor next door to my grandma was seeking reimbursement for repairs since there were holes in their house that came from my grandma's yard.
But it turns out the previous owner of my grandma's house caused those damages.
So after inspections and everything, the neighbor's insurance reimbursed him about $1600 to make the repairs.
Now's the sticky part: The insurance company's lawyers sent a letter to my grandma asking for reimbursement for what they paid the neighbor.
We've tried contacting our home insurance to deal with them but have been getting no calls back. We were thinking of writing a letter to OUR insurance company including the letter from the neighbor's lawyer and let them handle everything.
My grandma is just worried about losing the house. Thank you guys so much in advance.
TL;DR: | My grandma's neighbor has been asking for reimbursement for repairs that she did herself. We're worried about losing the house. | Insurance company wants to pay for repairs to house.
EDIT: Grammar and wording. |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Insurance company's lawyer seeking reimbursement?
POST: Hi, I'm from California and my grandma has been in a sticky situation with her home.
A neighbor next door to my grandma was seeking reimbursement for repairs since there were holes in their house that came from my grandma's yard.
But it turns out the previous owner of my grandma's house caused those damages.
So after inspections and everything, the neighbor's insurance reimbursed him about $1600 to make the repairs.
Now's the sticky part: The insurance company's lawyers sent a letter to my grandma asking for reimbursement for what they paid the neighbor.
We've tried contacting our home insurance to deal with them but have been getting no calls back. We were thinking of writing a letter to OUR insurance company including the letter from the neighbor's lawyer and let them handle everything.
My grandma is just worried about losing the house. Thank you guys so much in advance.
TL;DR: | My grandma's neighbor has been asking for reimbursement for repairs that she did herself. We're worried about losing the house. | Neighbors insurer asked for reimbursement. Home owner caused damage. Home owner's insurance reimbursed neighbor. Home owner's insurance wants $1600 to fix the damages. |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Insurance company's lawyer seeking reimbursement?
POST: Hi, I'm from California and my grandma has been in a sticky situation with her home.
A neighbor next door to my grandma was seeking reimbursement for repairs since there were holes in their house that came from my grandma's yard.
But it turns out the previous owner of my grandma's house caused those damages.
So after inspections and everything, the neighbor's insurance reimbursed him about $1600 to make the repairs.
Now's the sticky part: The insurance company's lawyers sent a letter to my grandma asking for reimbursement for what they paid the neighbor.
We've tried contacting our home insurance to deal with them but have been getting no calls back. We were thinking of writing a letter to OUR insurance company including the letter from the neighbor's lawyer and let them handle everything.
My grandma is just worried about losing the house. Thank you guys so much in advance.
TL;DR: | Neighbor wants money from my grandma for repairs. Turns out it was the previous owner of my grandma's house that caused those damages. Neighbor's insurance paid the neighbor, and now wants my grandma to pay them back. Our insurance is basically MIA. | Insurance company wants to pay for repairs to house.
EDIT: Grammar and wording. |
SUBREDDIT: r/legaladvice
TITLE: Insurance company's lawyer seeking reimbursement?
POST: Hi, I'm from California and my grandma has been in a sticky situation with her home.
A neighbor next door to my grandma was seeking reimbursement for repairs since there were holes in their house that came from my grandma's yard.
But it turns out the previous owner of my grandma's house caused those damages.
So after inspections and everything, the neighbor's insurance reimbursed him about $1600 to make the repairs.
Now's the sticky part: The insurance company's lawyers sent a letter to my grandma asking for reimbursement for what they paid the neighbor.
We've tried contacting our home insurance to deal with them but have been getting no calls back. We were thinking of writing a letter to OUR insurance company including the letter from the neighbor's lawyer and let them handle everything.
My grandma is just worried about losing the house. Thank you guys so much in advance.
TL;DR: | Neighbor wants money from my grandma for repairs. Turns out it was the previous owner of my grandma's house that caused those damages. Neighbor's insurance paid the neighbor, and now wants my grandma to pay them back. Our insurance is basically MIA. | Neighbors insurer asked for reimbursement. Home owner caused damage. Home owner's insurance reimbursed neighbor. Home owner's insurance wants $1600 to fix the damages. |